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writes:hey Cupids. Basically I lost my virginity and I am now in a long distance relationship. I won't be seeing my guy for some time now. Would getting a vibrator help me from getting tight again and if so what would the best type of vibrator be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): God yes, DB has the right question here! Really, how is this a bad thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): Who ever said tight is a bad thing? Personally its beeter being 'tight' then all loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): I have the same problem--I tighten up pretty quickly when my boyfriend is not around. He's always talking about buying me a vibrator, but I'm not too keen on the idea. He's reeally a big, like well-endowed guy so it makes it even more painful the first couple times. If you get a vibrator, it should do well in keeping things from closing too tightly :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 Being too tight hurts when you have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): I have to agree with dirtball. Why do you want to be loose? Why is tight a bad thing?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (28 April 2011):
A dildo is what you need. Or a vibrator that is meant to use internally as well. The rabbit is a good one to use, they typically aren't as large in size, and you can variate more with it. Get something that is not hard plastic, or hard material. Pick a material that is more flexible, softer, more rubber-like, or if you can afford it: fake skin. It feels much more comfortable. Again: just avoid the hard plastic ones if you intend to use it inside of you and not just for clitoral stimulation.
Other than that, using your fingers, to-three fingers, while masturbating, should keep you "loose" enough. You don't want to stretch out too much either you know.
Next time you have sex just remember to take it real slow the first 2-3 times and even if you are tighter you should still loosen up pretty quick!
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reader, Nime  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 She's talking about being tight where it's painful. What's good for the gander ain't always good for the goose, dirtball. :) Despite what they say, that sex doesn't make you 'looser', if you've recently lost your virginity or gone a few weeks without having sex, intercourse does tend to feel too tight and can be painful for the girl. OP, it's likely nerves that cause you to clench and give you that tightness, so a vibrator will not help if you're already comfortable and relaxed while masturbating by yourself. Next time you see your boyfriend indulge in a lot of kissing, ask him to give you a massage and pleasure you before you have intercourse. This will help lubricate you. If you still find yourself too tense you can work on imagery techniques, where you imagine your pelvic muscles relaxing and unclenching, blowing up like a balloon, whatever. The mind has more control over muscles than most of us realize, and fear and imagination play a huge part when it comes to muscle tension and flexibility. Take stretching, for example. The reason we can't all do splits is not because our muscles physiologically lack the flexibility, but because our central nervous system (CNS) is terrified of letting our muscles stretch into positions we're not used to. That's the pain you feel when you stretch; it's not your muscles, its your CNS's terror as it screams at you to stop, even though you are physically capable of stretching further. Imagery and relaxation techniques are one of the most important tools contortionists have to get into those weird positions. So anyway, exercise your imagination and relax your vaginal muscles into not being so tight.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Since when was being tight a bad thing?
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