LDR boyfriend is pushing me away. Do I stay or end it?

A female age 26-29, *rtemisia723 writes:

I have been in a relationship with him for 2 years now, but he left about a month ago to live overseas. He says he wants me there but makes no effort to get a job and when he is offered one and the pay is good, he doesn't want it because the status its too low and doesn't want to start from the bottom and work his way up the same way everyone else has to, but then still has the nerve to complain. If he truly wants me there wouldn't he do whatever he needs to do to get me there as soon as possible? I'm trying my best and saving up and working so why won't he? He starts massive arguments over small things and I try to understand how he feels but then makes what I feel seem invalid. He would rather go days without talking to me or apologizing and I am usually the one to apologize first but this time I just can't so now he hasn't spoken to me in 2 days. It started off with a normal conversation and he said something very hypocritical and I pointed it out and then everything went to hell. He asked me why I said so and I gave him examples that has happened in the past, not to start an argument but to back up why I say he is one. He starts throwing everything in my face about how I have messed up and I know I have but that wasn't part of the topic at hand. He comes up with every excuse to why he is acting differently but never seems to just say sorry after I told him that I feel hurt. This has been going on for 6 months before he even left. Is his behavior manipulative? Is this even something worth fighting for when I'm giving and getting nothing in return and losing myself in the process, when it seems like I am the only one fighting?

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