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writes: I have been going out with my gf for 3 weeks. I know she wants to get off with me...but I'm really shy. All my mates tell me to do it, but I'm scared if I'm crap. What do I do?
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reader, Unlucky-in-live +, writes (24 April 2006):
Im guessing this fella is from the UK, as "getting off" is just a term for a kiss, as in a snog, not actual sex.He's obviously like a 12 year old boy or something.Just do it, the first kiss is always the hardest, but it all comes naturally, just go with the flow.
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reader, sherry1408 +, writes (23 April 2006):
hi in my opinion what you need to do is talk to your girlfriend, tell her what you are worried about. everyone gets nervous about sleeping with their partner for the first time and if someone tells you any different they are lying lol. you never know your girlfriend might be feeling the same way you will never know unless you talk about it. when it comes to it then because you have spoken about it she might tell you what she likes or what she dont like, you should feel more relaxed then. hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2006): i went out with this girl i really liked for 4 years, i did nothing with her because i though i would show myself up, wait a little while then try it see how it goes.
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reader, ammz2 +, writes (20 April 2006):
 you should talk to your girlfriend and see if she really does want to get off with you and tell her your problems because chances are that she wont be bothered if you are shy and you shouldnt listen to your friends because they are pressurising you into it when you are not ready. You have to be 100% sure that you want to. If your girlfriend loved you then she would wait until you are ready. Also dont worry about being crap because it will all come naturally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2006): what the fuck, come on people, it really does not matter how long you're in a relationship for, when you're ready, you're ready. Dude, if you think your gonna be crap, then dont do it yet, wait till you are confident that you wanna do it. If you're just talking about snogging, then you're fucking pathetic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2006): I think he meens snog
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 i agree with chunky monkey...you shouldn't rush yourself into a sexual relationship if you don't feel ready or comfortable. espeically only being three weeks in you've just began dating, don't allow you mates to push you into anything. just because your mates say you should doesnt make them right. just wait until you feel ready
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (14 April 2006):
Wow, slow down. If you have only been dating her for 3 weeks then you are rushing into something too quickly. You should never feel pressured into doing anything. If she already wants sex she may just be using you for sex. Maybe you should rethinkg this relationship. Remember your first time is something you will remember forever. So make it worthwhile whith someone you love and the one. Then it will mean more and be very special. Believe me I know, i waited and I was special.
Just take your time and don't do anything you are not ready for.
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