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writes:okay me and my boyfriend want to try anal sex and we will use lube and a condom. he is very trusting and i know he loves me and he said he will take it slow. anyways like a month ago i had back surgery, i had scoliosis and they put rods on my spine and i want to know if anal sex OR vaginal sex will hurt my back. i feel okay right now, i just can bend over much or anything but other than that i have healed alot. also is there a position that would make sex after the surgery easier since i cant bend over much? thanks. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): Depends on the position- try laying on your side, and let him slide in from behind. Where he slides in is up to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): I wouldn't advise it, especially if your having trouble bending your back as it is. You might dislodge something and then you will be in pain.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 August 2009):
 Best way to know is to ask your doctor. I'm sorry if I sound prudish but a 13-15 year old SHOULD NOT have anal sex. No way. Nor regualr sex if you ask me.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (22 August 2009):
 NO! Dont do it!
Any operation on your back is SERIOUS, and if it has only been one month, then you should not be putting it under ANY extreme pressure. Having had a friend who went through a similar operation, it took her months to fully regain her movement, and she was warned not to do anything strenuous until it had healed properly, and she had been given the all clear. At the moment, your back may feel "ok" to you, but you dont know what is actually going on inside - one false move and there could be serious complications, including paralysis. The fact you cannot bend over does suggest that you do not have the flexiblilty for this type of activity at the moment. Any type of sex puts a lot of pressure on the spine.
Obviously I am not a doctor, but I think anything to do with the spine should be treated with caution. Its better to be safe than sorry. If you want a definitive answer, then I suggest you go and ask your doctor, they will be able to tell you exactly what you can and cannot do at the moment. However, I expect you will not do that, as that at 13-15 you know you are most definitely UNDER AGE in most places. I suggest you may want to think about how you should be conducting yourself as a 13-15 yr old, as your boyfriend could easily be prosecuted for stautory rape. Anal sex would only increase the likelyhood of him getting into VERY SERIOUS trouble. Just remember, sex with a minor - in any form is ILLEGAL.
Concentrate on getting better - not getting laid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): i think the back thing is gonna be sore but if your boyfriend takes it slow and gentle in this positition then i think that it shouldn't damage you alhtough im not a doctor
although the last thing i would be worrying about rite now is your back
i mean your 13-15 and your considering vaginal/anal sex? you sound like your in a steady relationship but are you sure you are emotionally and physicaally ready? are you respected by your boyfriend? and do your friends totally support you and wont spread it round school?
i know sex is good but what your doing is illgeal in the states i dont knwo what the age limit is but i dont think its 13-15 just picture what your mom or dad would think ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust to let people know...i have already had sex before surgery but i want to know if it would hurt me now.
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