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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyoneso my boyfriend and i have been pretty much a foursome with this other couple since we started dating. my boyfirend has been best friends with this guy since we started dating and i work with him, so through him ive become really good friends with his girlfriend, shes probably my best friend too. my boyfriends best friend and i have always had a bit of distance between us - i;ve always found him a bit cold, but i we get on ok. we work together so we share lifts every morning and evening. then the other day i was helping him take somthing into his house and he tried to kiss me. i stopped him of course, but he told me he was in love with me and has beem since we first met, and he was only distance to try and fight it. i was shocked obviously because like i said im bestfriends with his girlfriend.so i told him firmly that it was never going to happen and left. if that wasnt complicated enough my boyfriend and i have just got enaged, and he's asked him to be the best man! so what do i do? do i tell anyone about the kiss? it would crush my boyfriend, and i would probably loose my best friend because noone wants to hear about their man trying it on with their best friend! but then how do i go through a wedding or try and be normal with him when socialising with each other or being alone with him in a car knowing what happend? and if i dont tell my boyfriend and then he found out later from someone else he would be devistated. Please help!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 If I read that right, he didn't kiss you because you stopped him. Basically nothing happened other than him confessing feelings for you.
I think I'd drop it and pretend it never happened. Were there witnesses that could report it back to your fiance? If not, then nothing to worry about. His issues are between him and his GF, you just need to focus on yourself.
You did the right thing. It may be a good idea to tell this guy exactly where you stand so that there is no doubt in his mind, and that you are just going to forget the whole thing ever happened as long as he promises to never try anything like that again. There is no need to hurt more people if it can be avoided. This was rather small ultimately.
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