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writes:I am Gay Guy, in a Civil partnership. I have appeared to lost my libido, and my partner has turned to using phone lines for his sexual release. I get very frustrated with him, and at a loss as how to handle this.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 December 2011):
I agree, get checked out, could be something as simple as low testosterone. And honestly if you are annoyed with him for his behavior I can imagine it's even harder to feel like having any kind of sex with the guy.
Bad sex can also lower ones libido over time, same with boring sex.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (13 December 2011):
 Doctor first to make sure you don't have any physical problems like low Testosterone...Then you got to do a check list of all the things that could lower your sex drive.. These include...Drinking too much alcohol, staying up late, being tied...Stress at work, at home or in your relationshipMoney worriesUnhappiness or resentment felt towards your partnerBad treatment from your partnerFalling out of love, finding you partner unattractiveRecently married and in a panic about commitmentPoor diet, overweight, unfitBoredomPast problems maintaining or getting erection (fear of failure)Lack of romance, lack of "Joie de vivre" (Joy of life)Hidden DepressionUnsatisfactory pleasure during sex.As you see the list is endless, check with your doctor first, then start to look at your lifestyle, and see what can be improved. Ask him to stop the outside sexual activity, you may have no libido, but there is no reason why you cannot give him sexual relief. You resenting him is just helping to turn you of sex. Start with removing any stresses, make sure you live a "healthy lifestyle", this includes little or no alcohol, healthy food, exercise, and some resting time. Then try to work on just romance, holding hands, going out together, flirting, the stuff you done when you first met. Try this for a month or so, and then come back and update your post and tell us how your getting on.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 December 2011):
 When was the last time you saw your doctor? What other issues do you have going on? How long have you been together? But most importantly, when was the last time you saw your doctor and how is your health overall?
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