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writes:I have a friend that I have known for about 5 years. I enjoy his company but nothing more. He told me a while ago that he has feelings for me and wanted us to be together. I made it very clear that even though I value his friendship ( which i genuinly do) I dont have romantic feelings for him and nothing was going to happen. He got very upset, worrying that he had ruined our friendship so i told him i was still willing to see him as a friend. This was 6 months ago. Everything was fine for a while and then all of a sudden he started acting weird. He doesn't like it when i go out with other friends. He wants to no if they are male. He started asking personal questions about my previous sex life. Then he said that when we go out somewhere he conciders it to be a date so i set him strait and backed off, now be txted saying his family want to meet me! I dont know what to do with him i made it clear that i didnt like him in that way, did i bring this on myself? should i not have remained friends with him and how should I deal with him now?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 September 2012):
 It would seem that when you told him you didn't want a relationship he didn't hear you.
Now you must SHOW him. Don't meet his family, if he asks, just say NO. Don't go any where with him if he thinks they are dates. Dont discuss anything of a personal nature with him. I think this friendship has run its course, start pulling back, don't text, don't message, dont interact online, don't answer his calls, don't involve him in your life.
If his weirdness gets worse tell somebody, a parent or somebody else, if it develops into stalkerish behaviour seek legal advise.
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