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female
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36-40,
*parna
writes:after my breakup,i am left alone.actually i found my ex boyfriend having sex with my mom.i am really broken.After that incident i moved to a new place and not in contact with anyone.i am into lots of drinking and sex with strangers.i want to overcome it but i can't.if you can help plz help me.
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reader, aparna +, writes (15 June 2010):
aparna is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you i can't promise but will try
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reader, RyanS  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 This is very unfortunate. But by lots of drinking and sex with strangers, you are abusing yourself, and that does not help at all.
Think of it this way: your current actions are making you less attractive for a serious guy who could be your bf in the future.
Not all guys are beasts like your ex. As a man, I can't even think of what your bf has done. He is a bad apple. Forget him for now, but don't forgive him. One day in future, you will get your chance to get even. For now, ignore him.
My sincere suggestion is to stop having sex for some time. Its making you lose focus. Please don't lose your self confidence by your current actions. Put your mind into something very challenging.
You must meet new people - men and women, without any agenda. Join a gym or learn yoga or martial arts or join a foreign language class -- it really helps. Most Indian cities have these facilities. You need to give your mind some space -- to see that there are many normal people around you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): I am really sorry for what happend to you and neither your boyfriend or your mums behavouir can be excused. Being hurt and betrayed b people who are or were extremly close to you can leave alot of questions and betryal in your head and for you to over come that is not by sleeping around with strangers to feel loved because at the end of the day you are only hurting youself and that wont make you fell better. I reccomend you seeing a counsler to help you sort out your problems in a helathy way. I wish you nothing but the best and hopefullly you will move on from this being a better and stronger person that a million guys would want to be with
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