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writes:Well, I'm in love with this guy... but my friend dated him and they broke up over a year ago, she kinda still likes him. So, I've been talking to him, and I've fallen in love, same with him, he's in love with me. I haven't been this happy in FOREVER, so what should I do? I cannot lose him or my friendship.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I'm kind of having the same problem, so i can relate to your situation.If you and him both feel strongly for each other then talk to your friend about it.If she was a good friend she would understand how you feel and stand by your decision if he askes you out.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 Well I have always had this rule that you dont date or sleep with your friends ex's and vice versa. But if youb really do feel strongly for him talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. tell her nothing has happened yet but you wanted to check with her to see if it is ok to take things further. She will apprieciate your honesty rather than you going behind her back.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 Listen.If you get with this guy, you automatically lose your best friend, don't you? Coz even though she may say " yeah, don't worry, I'm fine with it" She will not want to hang around with someone who makes her feel hurt.If you get with this guy, you will spend the entire relationship wondering whether he still likes your best friend. You will be insecure.Think about it, if you split up with this guy, and your best friend suddenly goes out with him, how would you feel?The likelyhood is that if you go out with him, you lose your best friend, and then you and this guy will split, and then what will you be left with? Who will you turn to?I don't wanna say it, but your selfishness is blinding you. You only see what you want, look through the eyes of your friend and realise that dating this guy will cause SO many problems. I know, because my friend did something similar, I warned her, and she went with this guy anyway and she ended up a real mess.Please, take this advice from someone who's seen it happen.Take care xxx
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reader, AskEve +, writes (22 February 2008):
 He's her EX!!! Their relationship was over a year ago but they are not together any more. If you both feel this way about one another then you should tell your friend. If she really is your friend then she shouldn't stand in your way of being happy. What she once had with him is over! ~Eve~
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