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writes:Hi, so there's this guy I really like who I spend a lot of time with cos we're in a lot of the same clubs together. We invite eachother to parties, walks, concerts and movies together, both as a group and one-on-one. I really like him and have done for a few months, ever since he and his girlfriend split up. I've tried to show my interest in him by flirting - tickling him, teasing him, etc. and he does the same to me - hiding things from me, putting his face up close to mine, trying to scare me. It seems like he should like me, but he does also seem to treat other people in a similar way - I think because he's a self-professed attention-seeker. Our mutual friend asked him a while ago about me and he got all defensive and said I was just a friend, but I doubt he would have been totally honest with him if he wasn't sure about my feelings. I think he's still a bit hung-up on his girlfriend cos whenever someone brings the subject of her up, he gets a bit upset and wants to change the subject. I've fallen for him really hard and need to know if he likes me. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 April 2014):
There are two things that are in your post that you need to think about. The first is that he's possibly an attention seeker. This isn't a good thing, if true. But you only say you think that, so it's possible that he's not one. If he is though, best to avoid because he'll search for attention elsewhere even if he's interested in you, or he'll be jealous if he sees you getting attention elsewhere of any kind.
Secondly, you say that he's hung up in his girlfriend? Presumably he's ended it with her, so perhaps he's just not over her. In which case, you don't want to wind up just being a rebound.
I think though, that if you like him, you're just going to have to tell him. Being a man I know that sometimes we can completely miss the point when a a woman is flirting!
I think that you need to look more closely at whether he's really ready for a relationship, and if you want to take a chance, just tell him.
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