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writes: I think Im losing myself.Basically things in the past have happened between me and my married boss (I realise the effects and consequences of this etc,but if you please, this is not the point I wish to discuss now).Basically we slept together a few months ago and stuff, and we are still good friends.The problem is I find myself thinking about him alot, I work with him every day, and we are still good friends, who occassionaly have a cheeky snog etc.The point is I still find myself wanting him,thinking about having sex with himhe's moving jobs soon and I cant see much point staying at work without him.Ive come to the point where I feel like Im relying on him, probably because he phones or texts me alot and I miss him when I dont here from him.This isnt just about the whole sex thing I think its also because over the last year he's become my best friend.I really dont know where to go from here.The thing is I dont fancy him, and wouldnt want a relationship with him, if he was available.So what's wrong with me?Why am I feeling like this?Please helpI feel like such a pathetic person, just reading this back, doesn't even sound like me!:(
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reader, JennayyyCx3  + ♥, writes (7 July 2008):
 You have obviously placed a lot of thought on this, i can tell its been a struggle for you. I know that its very easy to become attached to things and lose yourself in the process but you just cant get back to how things were. Dont revolve your world around his(like quiting your job when he leaves) if he wouldnt do the same for you.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 You said it yourself, he has become your best friend...And you're soon going to be losing that best friend.
Maybe you should slowly start detaching yourself...Start going out with other friends, biulding another life away from him...xx
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reader, loveguru23 +, writes (6 July 2008):
You've grown feelings for him and it's understandable for what you've two been through. What you must understand is that you are NOT a patehtic person..just someone who has gotten caught up.
What you should do is focus on someone new...and leave your married boss alone. You mentioned that you wouldn't have wanted him if he was available...so it's clear that you just like the thrill of being with someone who's already attached.
Daniel Amis
www.relationshipadvice4you.com
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