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writes:Hey my name is Andrew I have been apart from my gf for about 10 months now and I will be back in less then 8 weeks. The problem im having is the following:I love her and I want to stay with her forever but I dont know if I can just forget everything I was put through while I was away.I dont know if i can forgive her and forget. Has anyone else been in a long distance relationship, and felt the same way? When you're finally together will it all go away and you just forget or not care about it any longer?
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Well, obviously it's never nice to have your emotions toyed with. From my experience, things will feel a whole lot better whenever you actually see her again, and it's a whole lot easier to put it behind you.
So yes, a few of those things obviously weren't good, but I'm quite sure you will get by, so long as you can forgive her for it, and when/if you do that, it will becomine easier to forget.
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reader, AndreC. +, writes (5 August 2007):
AndreC. is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well some of the things that went on are her talking to guys on the phone that I dnt feel comfortable with and lieing to me about it,from what i know she hasnt cheated also there was a time where she was going out to a party with all her friends and when we talked about it she had said that she wasnt going to go because she wouldnt feel comfortable with it and then she would keep changing her mind and playing around with my emotions and then she basically chose her bestfriend over me and ended up going after i telling her that her bestfriend doesnt care about her and that only calls her when she has no one else around and I was right because now they dnt talk but she wouldnt take my word for it she had to hear it from her xboyfriend the things that she was saying behind her back when i had been telling her all along these sort of things bother me but will it all be put behind me when i see her again?
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reader, boyo9876 +, writes (5 August 2007):
Dude, without knowing what the problems are its difficult for us to say what might happen. I mean, if she had an affair with your best mate, then no it might not go away, if she forgot to call you everyday then it will go away...You need to give us a little more info...
In short, if you both love and trust each other then you can work through most things. But things have to be talked about otherwise they eat at you and then just come out all at once...
If you love each other then work from there..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): What were you put through while you were away? Why is it making you have doubts about your relationship?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (5 August 2007):
You mention about forgiving and forgetting, but I'm just not entirely sure what you have to forgive and forget. Maybe you just spared the details, but I'm afraid I can't tell what it is you want to forgive her for and forget. E.g. What were you put through while you were away? What happened?
I'll gladly help you having been in a similar situation myself, but this forgiving and forgetting business is confusing me.
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