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writes:I need some advice please. I dated my boyfriend while he was at uni but it was long distance. He found it hard to be faithful and often wanted to be single like his mates but eventually he met a girl from his uni and so dumped me. When he graduated a year later he returned home from uni and begged me back, so we got back together and have been dating for 8 months. I checked his phone the other nite and he had text the girl he was two timing me with telling her he regretted letting her go. I feel awful that he has me yet was telling this girl this. What do you think of it? Maybe given the opportunity he'd dump me again to be with her but shes in another country now. Am i going to be the fool again? Please help i don't know what to do. Do you think he really wants me? (ps when i confronted him he said she'd rang to say she missed him and cos he'd been drinking he foolishly sent this message but that it didn't mean much).
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reader, miss fit +, writes (7 May 2007):
yes, he does actually want to be with you so he can say to his mates that he has a girlfriend until another bimbo comes along with huge tits. move on and try and date some one with testicles.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 I think this guy doesn't deserve you. He's already dumped you once to be "single". If the guy couldn't wait for you for a year, then clearly you're not worth waiting for in his eyes.
And now he's messaging with his ex saying that he wants to be with her. I don't think being drunk excuses this kind of behavior. Being drunk makes a person loosen the rules a bit, so if he does something like that when he's drunk, it just means that the urge is there but is usually restrained when he's not drunk.
If he found it hard to be faithful when you're not there, maybe it would be hard for him to be faithful even when you're around.
I hope you will find someone who is devoted to you and values you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): drinking or not drinking i always think that if you are in a relationship then saying you were drunk is not an excuse! to be honest hun i think you should get rid of him, if you feel this awful then he isnt worth the hastle! you shouldnt be with someone who you have to keep checking his phone or his house!! you should be with someone you feel secure with! you have to think if he is doing this to you who else has he done this to in the past! i hope you do what is best for you!
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reader, sodapoppow  +, writes (7 May 2007):
I am younger than you (23) so take that into consideration before strongly considering my advice. I have been in difficult situations like this before. Not to crush your heart but that is a bold statement ("i regret.."). The truth of the matter is you could overcome this by telling yourself nothing will ever come of this because she lives far away. However, this is about you and him right now (not other girls and not your past). I assume you are feeling anxious/paranoid and even though you have alot invested in this relationship, you have to be confident enough in yourself to know that you can find a relationship where this is not an issue. If you strongly believe you can get past this and will find happiness with this guy than you can take a risk. Unfortunately, if you are like me you are probalby thinking "well do i take a risk that any other future a** that I date wouldn't stray either?" good luck.
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