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writes:i don't know if there's a lot of people on this site that can give me any experience-based advice on this particular issue, but it's worth a shot. and thanks in advance. i'm gay and have been out about it for over ten years now. with that being said, there's a girl that just started working with me about a month ago. she's really cute, and i always got this feeling she may be interested in me, but i wasn't sure. but i also knew she was "straight." but she gets really shy around me and kinda awkward. it's cute. anyway, friday night, after work, her and i and a few others went for a drink. everyone wound up leaving after a while, and her and i both stayed. that night, she admitted to me very bluntly and honestly that she really liked me and wasn't sure of her sexuality anymore. that she'd never been with a woman but since having met me, she didn't know what was going on anymore. i didn't do anything that night because we both had been drinking and i didn't want to freak her out. well the next night, we both went out together again, and were both sober this time, and i kissed her. after, she told me it felt right and she really liked it. but now, i'm hesitant. i always told myself to avoid girls that didn't know their sexuality (keep in mind, i've been out for a long time). there's a lot of room for disappointment and let down and heartbreak with women who aren't sure of their sexuality. anyway, i'm unsure of where to go from here. should i even entertain the idea of dating? or just let it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): I think you should go for it... It is going to be a tough road being that she is straight, but if you two feel attracted to each other why not give it a try. You only have one life. Just make sure that she is not experimenting with you. Some women just want that girl experience, and it seems obvious to me that you are not that type of person. I myself was straight women until I met my girlfriend. Never in my life I imagine having a relationship with a woman. It has been tough and I am still on the closet. I get panic attacks; but I am willing to stick around 'cause I love her. Good Luck!!!
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reader, orangeswild123 +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Now I personally am not gay BUT my friend is and I asked her advice on this for you since I saw your questions wasn't answered yet. Here is what she said
"Dating a girl who is confused is even more confusing for me. I dated one girl who wasn't sure where she stood on it all she knew was she was drawn to me. We dated for a little bit, but the biggest issue we had was she wasn't sure what she wanted. Some weeks she would be totally into me, then not talk to me for a week because she just wasn't feeling it anymore. It was emotionally draining. I went back and forth with her like that for about 2 months too long. My advice is to give her 2 weeks to see where she stands and if she is serious about this then go from there. Also just stay on your toes and put a little wall up. Not a concrete wall but more like a lego wall. That way if you feel she is into you, you can take it down piece by piece and if she's not you're not too attached and can chalk it down to an experience." Hope she helped you out! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): Go for it! My girlfriend also was "straight" before she met me. Of course I was insecure to the max when I started to date her, but over time I've learned that that was the best decision I've ever made. We are still going strong at almost 3 years!
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