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writes:I am in a relationship with the perfect man. He is very respectful, sweet, caring, treats me like i am a queen. He is successful, has his head on straight, independent, and I trust him with my world. And of course I am extremely physically attracted to him. Everything a woman could ask for all rolled into one. Which makes me aware I am as blessed as they come. But there is one thing lacking in our relationship. My man hates giving oral. He says he just was never into it and quite honestly has very rarely done it. He has not given me a full reason why other than he just isn't turned on by giving oral. He isn't mean about it but has made it very clear he is just uncomfortable with it. I know it's not me. I keep well groomed and am clean down there. And never had any complaints in previous relationships about my hygiene. So what do I do? I love him completely. And we are absolutely perfect together. I would never leave him over this but on the same note I love receiving oral. I don't orgasm very easily (even in past relationships) but when receiving oral I can every time. Please help. I don't want to pressure him. And I feel bad that this is such an issue for me but on the same token I want to be sexually satisfied just as much as he is
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (26 March 2014):
 Is there any physical reason why you can't orgasm through intercourse, eg, painful penetration etc? If not, then you need to understand that only a very small percentage of women actually orgasm through intercourse and even then it may have to be helped along with manual stimulation to the clitoris or a position where the women gets more stimulation,(woman on top). For some women an orgasm through intercourse may never be achieved, eg the man may ejaculate too quickly, the women is not aroused enough or not relaxed enough. You haven't mentioned how long you two have been together. If it's a relatively new relationship then be aware that it just takes time to get to know each other's bodies and to learn what works and accept that even in the best of relationships it may just possible to orgasm every time. It might be an idea to read up on ways to help you achieve an orgasm through intercourse (women's mags often have articles on this topic). Until that time try out different ways of non-penetrative pleasuring.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 March 2014):
 May I revert to my constant-in-the-past "take" on this?....
If two people wish to have a relationship..... BUT cannot discover and partake of sexual synchronicity...... then that relationship is doomed.....
You write: "I would never leave him over this but on the same note I love receiving oral...." SOooo, you have a decision to make. Either: stand by this claim (and endure an unfulfilling "relationship" indefinitely), OR, decide that you really DIDN'T mean what you said... and you DO want oral... and this guy doesn't do it... so you ARE going to leave him over this....
You can't have it both ways....
Good luck...
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