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writes:I am 19 years old and my ex-boyfriend is 20. Let me give you our background.We had been dating for a 1 1/2 years when he decided to go into the Marines. I was and still am happy for him! He left for bootcamp and we stayed together. Bootcamp consisted of 3 months with just letters. I am in college so I found a lot of ways to occupy myself while he was gone. I missed him a lot, but about a month after he left I started debating whether or not I wanted to continue this relationship. I cheated on him and kissed 2 guys while he was gone. :( Not proud of it and I do not talk to either guy anymore after it happened. I went and saw him graduate but it was awkward because so much had happened and breaking up was still in the back of my mind. We had a lot of fun while he was home though and I enjoyed him so much. After 10 days he had to leave again for extra training which would be a month with no communication at all. Right before he left I broke up with him saying that:long distance is miserable for mei dont want us to resent each otheryou are still my best friendi love you but i just want to do me right nowreally i was just so confused! i couldnt stand the distance anymore. it was wearing on me. While he was gone a kissed a few more people and ended up having a one night stand. Had no feelings for anyone, and hooking up with these other guys made me realize how much of a connection i had with my ex (but still boyfriend in my mind). We have talked a lot since he got out of the month of training! We still tell each other we love each other, but there is still that awkward we broke up thing in the back of both of our minds. He is coming home for Christmas in 2 weeks and we both know that it will be like nothing ever happened when we see eachother. As much as I want to be back together, I dont want all the miserable and alone feelings to come back again. Thats the resent I was talking about. What should I do? What do you think of my situation? It great to always have outside opinions.P.S. he didnt hook up with anyone cause he was working. He says he doesnt want to cause Im the only girl he wants. In our relatonship he is perfect and i always mess up! I trust him 100% but I dont plan on telling him about the other guys.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (6 December 2010):
 dont tell him about the other guys.
realize dating a marine guy is very difficult. u need to be serious about it.
u need to sit down with him and discusss how much time hes going to be with u and how much time u will be apart.
my parents have a friend who is married to a captain. he wasnt home 1/2 of the year. but his wife never cheated. she was faithful waiting for him. he has now retired and theyre happier than ever.she said if she had to go back she'd do the same thing all over again.
give it some thought.
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