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It’s complicated Are we friends or does he hate my guts?

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Question - (16 December 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Back in June last year I met this guy (Boy A) and we went out on a date and it seemed like we would hit it off. He talked about a long term relationship and made me promise to be friends with him no matter what happens. I didn’t hear from him for a few days after that but we texted and talked about stuff as normal. Then I went to Paris for a week and when I came back. In collage he wouldn’t even make eye contact with me. I was sad n everything but I let go. If he wasn’t gonna make an effort why should I?!

Anyway it comes to our second year and I go to my classics lesson then low and behold Boy A walks in and sits on the opposite side of the room, ironically he didn’t realise he was say right across/ in front, of me until it was too late. He smiled at me and it seemed like we were on good terms so I took June as being an “I like you just not in that way”. Fair enough. Unfortualy we have all the same friends and its weird how we didn’t bump in to each other sooner than June, all of his ex-girl friends happen to have either been best friends with me or we get the bus home together coz we live in the same area or we have classes together, funny enough I’ve known them longer than he has and have herd his name pop up over the last 5-6yrs but never registering it. His ex (Girl A) happens to be in my film class n we were friends at school she was dating Boy B but then she fell for Boy A so she got together with him, she clamed that Boy B was ignoring her n not being a very good bf etc. so Boy A hated his guts. A couple of months ago I asked Boy A for help on a classics essay it seemed like we were getting along fine I also asked him to leave me alone (which he new was light hearted) coz I couldn’t concentrate. Then he was talking to one if MY friends on fb n he said “oh PS. tell Girl B (Me) not to speak to me again, not even to come up to me”. 1. That’s childish. 2. What went wrong? WHAT’S HE THINKING? On the Monday we had AS revision lesson so we had to talk to each other but we were laughing and joking and just being ourselves. I didn’t find out he’d said that till the next day and since then I haven’t looked him in the eye.

Hears were it all goes wrong. I went with Girl A to see her ex Boy B coz they wanted to be friends, Boy B ended up liking me and said “I like you but I’m not ready for a serious relationship right now”, yeah ok… what ever. Girl A new all about this coz he asked her if it was alright. Boy B and I were hanging around in the libery with some other mates after I’d just dragged him away from talking to Girl A. then 20 min later I saw Boy A storm out after talking to Girl A. I never asked her what she said coz to be quite honest I shouldn’t of been able to see him from were I was sat. That next Mon I saw Boy A, Girl A and some more of MY friend so I went over to take to them. As soon as I said HI Boy A walked off. EERRMM, maybe he had somewhere to be. Later I went to Classics n say him talking to one of MY friends I said HI to her, he walked off. I could see this was personal. But he’s being a child, why should I care?! He has then proceeded to stare at me for the past 3-4 weeks across the classroom thinking I can’t see him coz i’m either looking at the teacher, my books or staring in to space, COZ I CAN’T LOOK RIGHT INFRONT OF ME COZ THERZ A IMATURE, ARROGANT, EGOTISTICAL, MORRON IN MY EYE LINE! And I don’t want him to know I like him.

How can he do that but insists on giving me the cold shoulder. What is he thinking???!!!!

Coz I’ve got to put up with this for another 6 months!

i'd try talking to him if i could but he wouldn't give me a straight answer.

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