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*allgirl22
writes:hi, im 22 years old. and i first met this guy back in school and we dated then. we had not seen each other for years so we met again. and when we did it was love at first sight. it felt so perfect! he was my soulmate. he would always tell me how he knew i was the one he wanted to marry. he went away to the army and he wrote me every chance he could, he also sent me cards, and called me. he was gone about 5 months. the week before he was suppose to come back home. he called me and asked me would i marry him as soon as he got home. i told i didnt know if i could marry him that soon cause i was only 18 and it scared me. a couple days later he called me and told me that he had heard some things about me cheating on him while he was gone and he broke up with me. i tryed and tryed to call him and talk to him but he didnt want anything to do with me. he acted like he hated me! 2 weeks after he broke up with me he started dating this girl i didnt like and she didnt like me either. we had never got along. and he knew i hated her. and he dated her anyway. a couple weeks later he dumped her and starting seeing this other girl. they were dating for only 1 month and she got prego and he married her a couple months later before the baby was born. he still acts like he hates me. right after we broke up he went around talking about me to everyone. about a year ago i seen him and his wife in a store. his wife had her head turned and didnt see me. he did and he kept staring at me. every move i made he watched me. i had ever heard that his wife talks about me and says really mean things about me and she doesnt even know me! please help me. why is he acting so mean for???? its been 4 years and i still cant get over him. i have tryed and tryed to date other guys. and nothing ever works out.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (12 July 2009):
 Please don't give up. I know life is crazy and it hurts so much to get your heart broken, but please don't give up. If you keep trying, soon you will find someone who is good to you. You have so much fun ahead of you! I can feel it!
However, it might be helpful for you if you talked to a professional therapist about this. If you feel low, it will be good to do some talking and let out your feelings.
Good luck.
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reader, Ballgirl22 +, writes (12 July 2009):
Ballgirl22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tryed dating alot of guys since him. And nothing has worked out. So im not sure what to do. Sometimes i feel i want to give up ... =(
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (12 July 2009):
It's time to let go of the idea that he was your soulmate. A guy that is meant for you doesn't do the crazy things he did, and doesn't talk about you like a dog. It seems like he never got over your rejection of his marriage proposal, and while he might not be happy about his marriage, he made his bed and now he has to lie in it.
Anyway, back to you. What have you been doing all this time? Have you been trying to date anyone? Or have you been spending all your time asking about him and following what he's doing? If so, please stop. Life goes on and you have to move forward and find your own happiness, and you will never find it looking back at the past. Let him go and focus on living and enjoying your life.
Good luck.
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