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writes:Hi, so my guy friend and I are in a band together and as a result spend quite a bit of time together. A few months ago, I realised I liked him as more than a friend when he tried to kiss me in a club. I thought he might have had feelings for me, too, hence the kiss, but afterwards we didn't talk about it and sort of pretended like it didn't happen (it's possible that he didn't remember) and continued on with our friendship as normal. He's really frustrating me because he seems to flirt with everyone, but I think this is just his personality and he just considers it being friendly. It makes me call his feelings for me into question, though. I don't know what I should do... This crush has been going on for a few months now and everytime I spend time with him and see him flirting with other girls, it hurst me. I thought it would be obvious by now that I like him - I have done as much as I can to show my interest without flat-out saying "I like you", but he still seems to have no clue. At this point, it's getting so bad that I'm considering leaving the band. Is there any point in telling him that I like him? Is there a chance he might like me back?
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (6 February 2014):
 How I feel it: this guy is a virgin (or quite) and he tries his chance with any girl because he is desperately looking for a girlfriend. As he hasn't a clue to how to get one, he's sort of panicking and thinks the number will compensate the lack of skill. And when one (or maybe several ?) girl does respond positively, as he has no clue at all, he isn't able to grasp what should be obvious (or might be obvious for more experimented guys) then he swaps the opportunity without knowing what he missed. Sort of perpetual movement.
Am I right, or am I right ?
That said, I don't throw the stone to him, it's not always as easy at it seems to understand the famous "non-verbal" female communication.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): weather he likes u or not is so not the main part here: u need to tell him. but to your question. i think the chances r 50 50 because he's either terrible at picking up hints, or hes acting as if he doesnt, so then hes terrible so then he doesnt have to reject u to ur face. but u still need to tell him, trust me: at least then u'll know. u dont even have to say it to his face. just text or phone. but if u want to say it to his face, u could practise saying it to a picture of him until ur ready. gud luck x!
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