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writes:I've been with my boyfriend 6 months. Everything was perfect at first, thought I'd found my dream guy, there was a real connection like I'd never had before. My feelings just grew stronger and stronger. We were inseperable, happier than we'd both ever been, the only guy I've ever been able to imagine myself settling down with in the future (which is big for me considering I've always been a free spirit with commitment issues). But due to ALOT of interference and trouble from his family, friends and other girls, we've gone completely off track. And he hasn't and still doesn't make enough effort to help contribute to put us right. All he'll say is,"I'm not having this conversation with you."And walk off and leave all the bad feelings to fester until they get out of hand. I'm fed up of always making the effort, he's too laid back and just doesn't seem bothered about anything, yet he'll declare how much he loves me a million times a day. I have lost so many feelings for him, and it feels like I'm only still with him out of habit considering I don't really have a life anymore except seeing him.It just feels like Groundhog Day everyday I'm around him and life is just passing me by. I'm depressed quite alot and I'm always snappy and feel frustrated.He stopped making me happy quite a while ago, yet I don't want to feel like I'm giving up too quickly.Please help.D:
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 So, it's his family, his exes (if I'm reading between the lines when you say "other girls") and his friends becoming intrusive baggage into your relationship, and he's being very complacent when it comes to their souring your relationship with him?
At six months, this shouldn't be happening, and he shouldn't be saying "I'm not having this conversation with you".
Next time he says that, respond by saying "I'm not having this relationship with you" and walk.
You're too young to be with someone out of habit, and at 6 months, it's not like you've got a massive investment in the relationship. So...if it's not working out, it's just not working out!
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