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writes:Can you love someone even though you don't talk to them hardly ever anymore?I feel like im inlove with my first love, i can never seem to get over himas soon as i see him i go all jellyfied and i feel like im inloveonce he told me to jump off these garages coz we was sitting on them, and i was about to without any hesitation, then he said he was jokingthat means i would do anything for himHe has never loved me or even liked me in that way, but i do, everyday for 3 years not one day goes past without me thinking about himis this love? and if it is what shall i do about it?x Reply to this Question
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 I don't agree that "real love" is when you'll do anything for that person, I'm lean hard on using my head and thinking about things.I think it;s the best way to be.
"Love" has been defined in thousands and thousands of ways ranging from: You'd jump off a bridge for them, die for them to it makes you feel like you just can't breathe without them, honestly I believe it's different things to different people. I believe you feel it in your heart and deep inside yourself you just "know": I love this person. It's solid and firm and unyielding. It's important to know the difference between infatuation and love, too. Learn that and you're WAY ahead of the game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol, its not an obsession
i was just saying i would do anything for him because i have such strong feelings for him
yeah i can understand why you say its an obsession but its not
and everyone who tells me what 'real' love is, is when you are willing to do anything for that person...
im just confused
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (15 June 2010):
This sounds more like obsession to me. He tells you to jump and you're going to do so without hesitation? Where's your head, girl?
that means i would do anything for him...that means you'll do anything stupid, no matter the consequences, for him.
Obsession is marked by lack of thought, devoid of cause and effect, and has no place in the real world wherein jumping from a building top can kill you and make you dead. Like really dead.
This is not love, it's stupidity. Get your head together, missy. You're going to need it to get through the rest of your life. And the next time anyone tells you to jump from a building: hesitate, for Pete's sake!
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reader, raiders +, writes (15 June 2010):
 If he knows how you feel and does not reciprocate your feelings, maybe you should stay away and add distance between you two. The only one that will hurt will be you so take care of your self and not put yourself in harms way.
Now if he doesn't know that you are so into him than tell him that you like him, and go from there.
Good Luck!
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