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anonymous
writes:Is this his way of trying to make me jealous?My ex partner and i split up several monthes ago, we had been seeing each other for 7yrs and had had 2 children whom are still young. Our relationship had been an odd one as he didnt live with me and our children for most of the time. I called time on it has i hadnt been happy and felt we had drifted apart. We share a laptop we had bought together and he still has his email account set up on it. He recently asked me if we could start a fresh, however i was tempted to look at his emails, which of course i know isnt a good thing but given our on off situation i could resist to look. I was quite taken back to discover he had joined a dating site, but even more surprised he had updated it that very day he had asked me to start a fresh, he had added more photo s of himself etc, although he has stated he doesnt want a reltionship of any kind. I was abit upset as it seems to me now he just wants to makeup as it is xmas time and wants to be with the kids. The thing is there is no way i could start a fresh whilst he is advertising himself on a dating site, but cannot let him know that im aware of it either. Or is it that he is trying to make me jealous, he has sent messages so he is obviously planning to meet some of these women.
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reader, Tine +, writes (6 December 2010):
 then i would break it to him in a subtle way and say i'm aware that you have been making yourself more available to women and tell him that if he is still going to carry on doing so, then you don't think that there hope of you both getting back together.
If you don't want to do this then ask him if he has planned to meet or actually met anyone else and act dumb.. You guys need to both sit down and work out what went wrong the first time round, and if this relationship is something that you both want to get back into.
Maybe he joined the dating site to gain a bit of confidence again, being dumped knocks your confidence alot and he probably was never really going to meet these women, it was just a confidence booster for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): He doesn't know you know so I doubt he is trying to make you jealous. He never made you happy last time so start a fresh, you do deserve to be happy.
Unless you want to get back with him the only thing you can do is confront him.
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