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writes:Hi there!There was/is this really kool girl who quite evidently was very into me, despite her being 3 years older than me (im 20). Anyway as we work on a project together once every week or so (yes its a working relationship) and althought we wouldnt speak much during the week (both of us are busy with college and work) when we did talk there would always be this flirtatious underlying theme, and we would always end up talking about sexual tension and other things.One time, I got a pretty strong signal from her which screamed "Make a move" and so I did.Some days later I asked if she wanted to go for a drink. She accepted despite being somewhat sick. I personally didnt consider it a date, because it was way too informal and we only talked for 2 hours. (We finish late at night with each having different work next morning). We spoke for a good half hour outside our cars afterward, about random things that I dont usually talk to anyone other than my best friend, like animals and books, career prospects.. Essentially, talking shit. Im not sure whether we were lingering because she wanted to, or simply to be nice. I recall saying something really lame too near the end, but again in retrospect I can only laugh at my nervousness.When i was going home i felt really stupid like it all went to shit, but in retrospect im feeling more apathetic about it than anything. There were a few awkward silences, but i suppose thats mutual nervousness. Ive spoken to 2 friends (both girl) who told me that it didnt actually go so bad.Anyway, I just want to see what some readers think! Is this worth pursuing or is it a dead cause?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 September 2010):
 What was this strong signal that screamed make a move? I don't even send signals, one I don't have time for that crap, two often they guy doesn't get it or gets confused, and three I go in for the kill, no beating around the bush here. So you went on a short, casual semi date, and ended up talking a lot. No, hand holding, footsies, good night kiss, nothing? It doesn't even sound like a date, it sounds more friendly than anything, did you even specify it was a date? Honestly, she's probably confused and doesn't know where she stands with you. If you are still into her despite this semi awkward pre date then call her and ask her out on a real date. Dress up, take her somewhere nice, and especially not on a night where you both have to work early the next day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): I think you should go for it. She's obviously into you, she wouldn't have gone out for drinks when she was sick if she didn't. It never hurts to try, if it doesn't work out at least you have a new friend.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (17 September 2010):
It's worth pursuing. If you get a second chance be yourself like you always have been. Just enjoy being with her and make conversation. Try not to question her motives, or flaws...since she has already agreed to seeing you.
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