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writes:Is this a disfunctional relationship? I have recently come to a cross roads in my life and have to make a choice once and for all. I have had a troubled relationship for 7 yrs and have children from this. My partner i think has been abusive emotionally throughout this time. He has never lived with us,i have tried to get him to committ but he is all mouth and no action, he lives with his mum and shows no signs of us ever being a family unit, my kids are getting older and now accept the situation. He really wants the single life but family life too. He does not see that it is disfuntional at all. He knows how i feel and does not seem to care. How can i realtionship blossom when you live apart, rarely spend any time alone as a couple and he just comes and goes as he pleases. I want to leave this relationship but fear no one will want me with 3 kids, 2 which are young. I feel he thinks this as well which is why he behaves the way he does. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2011): Think of how many men you've known, heard of or seen on tv who are step fathers. A great many of them. And since you'll most likely be dating someone in your age group, they will probably have children from a previous relationship as well.
Make this non existant relationship officially over and change the locks to your house. You're not going to be truly free of him if he has a key and can come and go as he pleases.
Enjoy some time on your own then start dating again. Raise your standards. If a man is unemployed and/or living with his mum (or someone else) then he's not for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 he's not really in the relationship at all is he?
so you are not getting what you need
there are men that will take on a woman with three kids don't even fret about that...
dump him, learn to be alone, then when you are happy with your life someone will fall into your lap
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): Ok, honestly? Yes, it's true, not all guys are going to want to get in to a relationship with a woman with three kids from someone else, but that is no reason to stay with someone if you are unhappy?!
Plus, do you really want to be with someone who would prefer to live with his mum than you? Unless he's doing it to save for a house for you all or something, i would say he sounds like a weirdo.
You know, it is okay to be single, really! And you could find that once you leave this relationship you will find a new confidence. Now, that is really attractive to men.
Good luck.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 No, I would not even call this a relationship!sounds like a "let's demean the girl-a-ship" Why don't you just leave?
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