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Is this a common fetish and should I be worried?

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Question - (11 August 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 12 August 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am a 23 year old wife and mother of 3 and my husband has just told me that he has a fetish for shemale's. We have been together for six years and married for 5 and since the begining of our relationship I have always known that my husband was attracted to men but was not willing to act on this which was totally fine with me as I am attracted to women but when he told me he was turned on by shemale porn I was bothered by this. My question is is this a common fetish and should I be worried? I know this sounds silly but I can't help but feel threatened by this new chapter in his life because when it was just men I knew I could offer him things a man was not able to but that is not the case anymore. Am I being totally silly or should I be worried about this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010):

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Thank You all for your advice and yes we are talking about a strap on. It felt really good to be able to discuss this with him and to get feed back from those of you who responded. thank you all very much and I will keep all posted.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 August 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntA great big old strap on cock should morph you right into his fantasy world luck to you let us know how he responds

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

There's a term for that (the strap-on sex with him). It's called pegging. I always loved that. Have fun! And definitely get one of those ones with a clit vibe for you built in.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

The other posters are absolutely spot-on. All you need now to round it off is a pair of handcuffs and a pair of ankle-shackles (for him, obviously). Lingerie and heels are optional (for him, natch). Enjoy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

Oh and if that dildo has a vibrate function then you can just turn it on, while it's in there and both of you will be driven wild.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

Yup, strap-on time! Oh and play around with a deep voice, that too could be fun. Assuming it's not too funny and laughter kills the moment.

She-males pretty much just wear women's lingerie, the only difference being they have a penis in those panties, even if you don't want to use a strap on, try putting a penis shaped object, maybe a dildo if you have one, in your panties and watch his reaction. That should drive him wild.

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A female reader, cocoqueen88 United States +, writes (11 August 2010):

cocoqueen88 agony auntsound like a stap-on is in order.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (11 August 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntAlways glad to help :)

I assume you're thinking about using a strap-on? Should be fun! Enjoy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

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Gabrielle thank you so much for your reply. I spoke to my husband about this a little more last night and shared with me my concerns and he assures me this is a fetish left for porn and porn only which I can totally deal with. We are going to explore ways to bring this into our sex life a little more as I want to make sure I am giving him all I can to fullfill his sexual needs as long as he does not act on this desire we will be fine. thanks again and god bless.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (11 August 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntIt's a very common fetish. Whether you should be worried or not STILL depends on the probability of his acting on his attraction. Most likely it will stop at surfing shemale porn on the web, which I suppose is something you can deal with. If it looks like going beyond that (or if he proposes a sudden trip to Thailand or Brazil) you might have something to think about.

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