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writes:I had a huge moment of weakness, I was working off of 8 hours of sleep total for the last 5 days. I went to first text my girlfriend no answer which was weird. I started to worry something happend she was out of town on work. I then called no answer no return call. I had orderd flowers and choclates to be deliverd to her house on the day she got home. Just because I love her. I got a call from the florist telling me the flowers where refused.by her dad. The only flowers she would ever refuse are make up flowers. So being sleep deprived, stressed out due to work worried and confused tring to figure out what I did wrong I left her another vmail and text telling her please tell me what I did wrong, if you need your space I will not call again, just call me when you are ready to talk. She not knowing about the flowers, got home was able to charge her cell which was the reason nothing was answerd or returned got all those messages. Brought up a big red flag for her, her ex husband big time control freak tool 4 years to get divorced because he drug it out on purpose. She then called me and I heard the anger and anoyance in her voice, I was so tired I did not tell her everything that happened and she was not ready to listen then either. She was just seeing me as a control freak. I told her I was just worried and confused and was afarid I was losing her. She said I lost her because of all the texts and how angry she thought I was. I was not angry, but sometimes my passion gets confused for anger. Again which I did not say. I was overly tired stressed out and now so hurt and disgusted with myself, I said just sleep on thos don't say that now please. She said that tomorrow the answer would be the same. I got her to agree to talk to me again on friday about this. The last I heard from her was saturday night, a mutal friend of ours told me she said she is not willing to work past this. This was just a few minutes from when I got done talking to her. Do I have a chance on friday? I have not selpt since then. Want to just lay in bed thinking I just lost the best thing that ever happend to me. When I look in the mirror all I see now is a pathetic loser not worth the air I breath. I am not suacidel. So if this happened to any of you out there, do I have a chance on friday or is she gone? I know she has strong feelings for me I just don't know how strong. She talks about us getting married and we talk about kids. So doesn't that mean there may be something there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Ps Like anon said, don't call her before friday ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Lets assume I was in your situation, and I did the same things you did, and she really did dump me without asking for any explanation or care for my side of the story, I wouldn't even bother. Because from the way you sound you need someone on your level. I think there maybe more to the story than just this moment of weakness, like you had doubts before this. I myself wonder why is she being angered by her ex-husband...I'm sure he's a part of her life but there should be a limit to that if she is implying that you are controlling like he was. You are not him and nor do you need to be treated like him. Personally, I would not waste my time on someone still involved with their ex.
But it is also a good lesson for you to not do things when you yourself is not in good health, as not sleeping. You should not do that to yourself, just to prove that you love her. I think you may have to learn to be a little more laid back, relax and not panic just from a few moments of lack of communication...to just have a little more trust.
Well good luck either way, try to relax a little more and gather your thoughts a little better. Watch some comedy shows, or something that makes you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well I finaly got some sleep. Thank god for Irish Wiskey. After getting completly plowed, then passing out, I managed to sleep the entire night. Boy do I feel a lot better. Still miss her have not contacted her won't until Friday. But would like to get back together, if she is not willing to take me back, best thing to do is to move on. I would like to be with someone who is willing to put the same amont of effort in as I am. Is that to much to ask? or do you think I am being reasonble?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): I agree with Jason - the most important thing is to get a lot of sleep before friday!! And also don't contact her before friday so she can see that you're not a control freak. I think you do have a chance to fix this by sitting down and rationally explaining everything like you did here. My ex was a real control freak and it took 3 years of him constantly freaking out on me over me not being in touch for a few hours etc to make me leave him. If she knows that you're sorry and that you think it got out of hand and why, she should give you another chance :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): I understand your pain man but you don't have to suffer...and don't try to fix the situation in the state you are in...it will NOT do you good. Get some sleep...take some sleeping meds if you have to and when you wake up you will have all the energy need to deal with it, and then you will be able to explain to her what has happened.
Just get some sleep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen i said by here dad i did not learn that until today
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