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Is there some kind of insecurity on his part, that makes him tell me these things?

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Question - (5 August 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 August 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, *ixieGwen writes:

Recently I broke up w/ my ex. we've talked alot since then and slept together.Last time we talked it was kinda iffy cos I asked if he was goin on a date/who he was hanging w/ and he felt I was pryin *he also said its not his friends/my biz who he hangs w/ - so he got mad *I didnt mean to*. So we chatted today and discussed our last convo/whats new.He said "u were right the other night WAS a hot date" and I said oh ok - thats what i thought."I think u know her - she goes to the bar *bar we went to*".I had guessed who it was cos it seems like he was waiting for me to and then he told me who it was when I was wrong. He went onto say things bout her - what she does, didnt know they had much that in common, blah blah blah blah.It's like he was purposely tryin to upset me/get me jealous/figure how id react.He didnt sound super thrilled bout her just seemed like he was tryin to get a rise outta me.No matter if we changed the sub - it'd go back to her.Theyve known each other for a long while cos they go to the same bar and she had a bf and prob just broke up w/ him.I dont think he dumped me for her I just think it happened to be good timing.

We're hanging out tomorrow - gonna have coffee. But what bothers me - I cant understand is WHY he would feel the need to rub it in my face.What does he expect me to do? yell, scream, go beat her up or pull her hair? W/ his ex - while he was dating me, he didnt rub me in her face *as far as I know*.

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A female reader, PixieGwen United States +, writes (6 August 2009):

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PixieGwen agony aunti knew who she was...cos they go to the same karaoke place. ive seen her several times - they never seemed into each other..i never felt threatened by her while we were together..

so i was surprised when he said he was dating her - granted hes currently broke and she seems to be volunteering to take him places/pay for everything. i think he was tryin to get me jealous cos he just wouldnt shut up about it..

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A female reader, Helples United States +, writes (6 August 2009):

Helples agony auntDid he talk to her the time you two were dating? That could be why he didn't brag about you to her.

Maybe he is trying to get you jealous, but if you're not, simply say "Congratulations," and hopefully he'll stop talking about her if you haven't said that already. Or ask him straightforward about it.

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