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writes:Well, I have getting over a lad who has a girlfriend for a while now. I still find him attractive but im doing all the things to stop me thinking about him which is gd :).Well, i have recently started noticing another lad in one of my college lessons. I sometimes catch him looking at me for a second, but, not surprisingly he looks away when i look.Well i have never really spoken to him before and have now idea what to stay to get a conversation going with him. I dont have much confidence. I have looked for him on Myspace but have figured he hasnt got it. I think i wud prefer to talk to him on that or msn beforehand to find out his interests so i know what to tlk about. But im not really friends with any of his friends so cant really ask for it without seeming wierd.Someone please help me. Is there anyway to boost my confidence and actually talk to him!!!Thankyou
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reader, Tiger-Spirit86 +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Next time you see him start by saying hi, if he says hi back, ask how he's doing, develop it into a conversation and build a friendship with him. After building a friendship with him, find something that interests him, talk to him about it, guys love it when girls speak to them about things they like, they feel special and they become more interested. Eventually you'll find out how he feels about you, also; look out for signs(if a guy sits with their chest slightly more stuck out towards a girl, it usually means they're into them.)If you see the signs, you'll know whether he feels that way about you or not. Good luck hun xxx.
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reader, theoneyoucancounton... +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Aww i wish i could tell uwhat you want to hear and tell you that there is a magic cure for lack of confidence but shamefully there isn't.you say your in his class? then do your friends know his friend, or is there a more confident friend of yours that can ask him for his msn and then give it 2 u once he/she gets it?failing this darlin all you really have to have is the take a chance gene and go for it, pluck up the courage and talk to him, start off casually by asking him how he is? what other subjects he is taking etc... if he likes you beack then this is so worth it! GO for it girl! you have it in you just believe!best of luck ask phoebe
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reader, shikari424 +, writes (11 January 2008):
Hmm. I'd give it time. The last thing you want to do is be so nervous that you ruin the chance of anything ever occurring at all! If you're shy, just wait for the right opportunity for you to start talking to him. Don't go up to him seemingly randomly, don't stalk him!! You don't want to look desperate or let him know you're into him just yet! Give it time, maybe he'll come to you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): hes obviously not confident either or he would have talked to you
so if you just go up to him and talk to him about anything he will be impressed and pleased at the opportunity to chat to you
i always have the same problem as you so im not the best person to give advice sorry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Firstly, well done for getting over the other lad, hopefully now you are ready to move on.
If you have caught him looking at you, there IS probably a chance that he likes you, but he may be shy.
Looking for someone on myspace isnt the best thing to do, as things could go awkward when you atcually talk to him, and if there is no other way to get his msn, ect then dont bother!
It can be hard to start a conversation if you arent very confident, but i will give you some tips.
- Catch his eye and smile, hold the gaze for longer than usual.
- Take a deep breath, walk past/over to him and say hi!
Ask him about college, where he hangs out, What music hes into.
- Hopefully you will keep chatting most days, and then he will ask for your msn/myspace/number DONT ASK HIM!
Hope ive helped!
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