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writes:Hi everyone.I am now living in another city to work. Every now and then, I feel want to call my gf to talk. When I think about it, I been calling her 2 to 3 times a day, mostly during our lunch time and while she is driving home. We get less things to talk about. I guess I call too often and I am afraid she will be annoyed if this keep going on.What is the healthy limit to call? Once a day or every few days?I am not calling for the sack of calling, I just miss her. For me, I don't mind if she calls me often and I will most likely happy about it. However, it might not be that way for her. I am wondering what is the better way.Advices are greatly appreciated especially those who been on the other side.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): Thank you for the advices.
Since I am in another city, we meet few weeks once.
I will control the calls. If she miss me, she will call to right? :)
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (16 May 2009):
 You know deep down that you are calling too often and that it is good for you, good for her and good for your relationship to let her miss you a bit and let her imagine that you are an important guy busy doing important stuff. It is really hard though. There is a great bit of software for the Iphone called Bad Decision Blocker which allows you block yourself from calling certain numbers for a period of time that you choose from a few hours to a few days. I have found it extremely helpful to do away with those rather feeble "I miss you but I don't have anything different to say from what I said 3 hours ago" type calls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): was that your title? - wow - the answer is yes, and its written in all our hearts - now if only we could put all the bits together....
you are calling too often and worrying about it too much.
talk to her and ask what's best for her then just call one over this limit...
you are fine just slow down a bit...:) phoning her because you miss her can wait a few hours surely? so long as you do.
talk to her and find what she likes....
star.x.
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reader, Regina80 +, writes (16 May 2009):
There is no limit on the number of times you can call her as long as you are both confortable with it. Talk to her about this. You don't mention how often you guys get a chance to meet up.
Hope this helps. God bless.
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