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writes:Just a quick, general question. Do you guys think there is a link between impulsive behavior and cheating? My bf has never struck me as a cheater and I've been with him for quite some time now. He has never seemed in the least bit shady. however, he is extremely impulsive in other areas of his life. Extremely is an understatement. what do you all think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (1 November 2013):
Dear OP,
I don't think you can make that connection. Because people can be impulsive in one set of actions but not the other. Maybe he's an impulsive buyer, that doesn't mean he's an impulsive cheater.
I think it's safest to say, if a person has cheated impulsively in the past, then that person might cheat impulsively in the future. Okay. But to guess from some other daily behavior, like gambling, driving etc. that he might cheat is far-fetched.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 November 2013):
 I have severe ADHD and part of that is severe "impulsivity". I have never cheated on anyone in my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2013): I think many serial cheaters may have a problem with impulsiveness (or is it impulsivity?) but I don't think you can turn this round to say that impulsive people are necessarily cheaters.
People are very complex and have a range of ideals and belief systems and even impulsive people will (usually) have the ability to draw the line at something they truly belive is wrong.
Murders and domestic violence are frequently impulsive acts but not all impulsive people will do such things
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 November 2013):
 In a cheater it would probably add to the problem, but if he's not a cheater being impulsive isn't going to make him cheat.
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