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writes: I found out on the day I was to bury my 94 year old grandmother that my husband went on chat rooms masturbating near our girls bedroom. Chatting to women who would tell him about what they were wearing. My husband has worn my dresses or skirts. Of course with some type of lingere under them. I think personally he is perverted. I love him to death. But am hating him right now. He has lied to me many times regarding this. I found out in August and he keeps coming out with all new things that are tearing me up inside. I keep saying over and over that I love him. I just can't trust him anymore. A woman at his work just baked him cupcakes and brought in hats and noise makers for his birthday and shared with everyone. I've noticed through the years they have become closer and closer. This terrifies me. Or is it that she is doing me a favor? He told her he was meeting me for lunch one day not to come to his room. Well surprise surprise she showed up with her lunch. She took the hint and left. Then a few days later she brought in his birthday cupcakes and noise makers. So I have no clue of what is going on. He is not honest. I can't do this anymore. I'm not strong enough right now to go through a divorce. I have two very young children. One in fact said to my husband she had a nightmare that Mommy married someone else and had another baby by him. I don't want that to happen. I want her to stay with you. Well, of course my heart is torn to shreds. I can't do anything even if I wanted to. I live my life through them. They are the only reason I enjoy being alive anymore. They are very very young and to hear a little 5 year old say something like that kills me. Where she came up with this, I have NO idea. My husband is a wonderful man to others. And extremely horrible to me anymore. I don't think he cares to be in this relationship either. Others have always been too important to him over the kids and myself. I can't take it anymore. Then I find out he masterbates to make himself happy. He cross dresses to make himself happy. He chats on line with other women to make himself happy. Is he gay? Trying to convince himself he loves women? I need therapy. Is there a chat room for women like us? I want to stay with him. I'm scared of being alone. I have young children who need stability. I stay home with them. Their life would be turned upside down if I left their father. What do I do? Another hang up I have with him is that he masterbates more times than he could even show me any affection. I truly believe he is more obsessed over his penis than he is over his own wife. I don't want him to be obsessed over me, but I would like some attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): hunny message me I will talk with you I was married for 6yrs to this kind of person and it ruins lives and hearts, Its up to people how they choose to live there lives but its up to you how you live yours love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): He would never touch the girls in anyway. I meant he did it in another room near their room. That is where our computer is. I'm sure OUR girls were not on his mind. I believe other women he was chatting with were on his mind. Yes he is a pervert. I am not in denial there. But you are right. I am very weak. And this is my fault. That is why I'm asking for help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): i cant believe you can even consider still being with this pervert, that is disgusting near your girls room, you only have yourself to blame for being so weak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
My ex was dressing up in womens clothes and looking at porn he used to look at transexual stuff that well just made me want to vomit, Hunny my husband beat me and called me a slut he hated women, Is your husband like this? I had small children, But I had to get out he nearly killed me in the end, I would wake up with knives to my throat. This is no life and this is no happy family. I would rather chew my own foot of than have that man near me and my children, I no its hard hunny but you have to make a decition to be happy as the children know when mums not happy, And if you cry they see it to. Hunny there are sites for familys with this problem, They are mostly about how to help you partner and how you deal with it, It may not be what your looking for, If you look up help for wives with a transgender husband you really dont get the support you need, And it support that you really need right now, So go see your doctor he may be able to help you out more, As I found the stuff on the web more hurtfull as I didnt marry a man for him to become a woman I wanted a man, If you need a chat please message me TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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