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writes:I recently met this girl over the summer.shes a single mom with a rough past.Im a single man with a baby on the way. shes also living alone and struggling.(had to put that out there)At first she seemed only somewhat interested IN ME ,but as time went on we really began to hang out and chill alot.we would flirt but kept it simple.she would get really personal,asking me my opinions,staring me in the eye,playing with her hair ,touching,showing me xrated piks etc. talking about everything and anything because we really clicked,plus she thougt i was to good for my babys mother and she WOULD CONSTANTLY commented on my personality and characteristics.i would in return flirt and expressed my feelings.Now a month later,(we WOULD ALWAYS MAKE PLANS BUT SHE Would not pick up her phone or cancel excluding a few times, making lame excuses.i would brush it off and continue being persistant even though i would be pissed. the other day she invited me over for dinner and said i was the only person she ever allowed in her apartment while her son was still up.we had dinner and a movie.the next day she said she enjoyed cooking for me and would do it anytime i wanted ,a week later she said she couldnt keep doing it because it made her feel a certain way which she wasnt ready for.that night we went out for drinks and eventually ended up kissing.It got pretty intense but no sex.the next day she said she cant keep hanging out wit me in that way because it was making her catch feelings for me.I brushed it off and a little later we kissed some more,getting a little more intimate.that day i got arrested helping her up the subway stairs with her baby stroller,(they say(cops) i didnt pay my fare)she didnt even budge. when i got out ,i called her ,,she never returned my call,,two days passed ,i would call and leave her messages,i finally saw her yesterday,,we made plans to chill that night.when i called her she said she wanted to take a break from hanging out bcuz she was catching feelings ,,which i was too,and i had a baby on the way ,,and it would be complicated between us.bcuz i would get back with my ex and she would end up hurt,sounds like b/s in a way.we never meet up but she calls me today,,i missed her call but returned it leaving a message ,,she never called back.now im confused,,we would have a blast together,she would show alot of signs she was interested ,we had great chemistry but then she would blow me off,,im more than sure im not the only person she talks to,she deffinitely not an angel but is she just toying with me ,,i feel like shes using that feelings excuse to let me down nicely?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): you are having a baby with another woman. instead of looking to play around while waiting for your baby to arrive how about giving your baby mama some support. i am sure she would want some tlc, hey you may even get lucky since she would have some raging hormones to contend with. bottom line - instead of investing in a doomed relationship, how about you working on the one with the baby mama.
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reader, Candleman +, writes (8 October 2009):
 I think she entertained the idea of getting involved with you, but then decided that she really doesn't want this right now. I wouldn't take it personally, all the compliments that she gave you, the fact that she brought you over to her place when her kid was up are all signs that she sees something in you. She seems to be telling you that she wants to be friends, maybe even friends w/ benefits, but she is not wanting to go down the serious route. You are obviously wanting to go down the serious route. Since you want something that she doesn't want, it seems if you can't meet her at her level which is friends, then you are going to set yourself up for these same emotions that brought you here. I'd go out and find other people to date and keep in contact with her. Ask her if she ever sees a time in her life when perhaps she would be interested in a serious relationship again. If you keep pushing her though at this time towards a serious relatinship, she's probably going to end it completely.
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reader, kathy255 +, writes (8 October 2009):
She sounds very confused! I suggest trying to move on. If a relationship is that rocky before it begins what will happen in a year from now. If you continue to try to start a relationship with her, you may get hurt. I don't know why she is being so wishy-washy, she may not realize what she is doing. You may also try talking to her ask her to be honest with you and find the root of the problem, whatever that may be. She may have an ex in her life, or she may be scared, or the worst case she may be screwing with you on purpose (I hope she is not, though some people are like that). Good luck in love, life and the new baby. Try to focus all your attention to the new child in your life. Children make life worth living regardless of anything else.
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