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FWB--I want him to say he wants to be in a committed relationship!

Q.   Last week I wrote a question about my fwb. I have a hard time understanding him. This afternoon I called him up to see what he had planned for the weekend. He then asked where I was and I told him I was at the office finishing up some work. He ...

A.   8 January 2015: we have been together for 6.5 years now. we now live together and everything is going great. So good things come to those who wait, and wait, and wait. :)... (read in full...)

Are we going to be "friends with benefits" forever, or does he want more?

Q.   I met this man about 8 months ago. At first we went to lunch together everyday and we spent the night together every weekend and sometimes through the week things were awesome. Soon we quit having lunch together but that was because he no longer ...

A.   8 January 2015: Been over 6 years since we met and now we are moving in together. Crazy how everybody thought that I was stupid. We have a wonderful relationship. Thanks to everybody for your hateful messages.... (read in full...)

Are we going to be "friends with benefits" forever, or does he want more?

Q.   I met this man about 8 months ago. At first we went to lunch together everyday and we spent the night together every weekend and sometimes through the week things were awesome. Soon we quit having lunch together but that was because he no longer ...

A.   18 May 2011: So it has been more than 2 years since I wrote this question, wow. Guess what folks we are still seeing each other. I love how so many were so negative about our relationship. We are not living together or talking about marriage or anything like ... (read in full...)

Should I take full custody of my two year old brother?

Q.   I have a 2 year old brother that I have Temp. custody of. I am 18 myself....I'm getting a job, he has medicaid, and I'm going to be going to school online at some point in the future. I want full custody of my brother because my mother is a horrible ...

A.   13 October 2009: Family always comes first take care of him if your fiance' loves you he'll stay by your side. He plans on making a for better or for worse commitment he might as well get use to it. Take your brother and treat him right, I wish someone would have ... (read in full...)

How much rejection must I go through before striking gold?

Q.   I'm beginning to think I suck when it comes to dealing with women. Lately, i feel like every time I show any interest in a woman it never works out. Which is odd to me considering how everyone always tells me I'm funny and good looking. So inspired ...

A.   8 October 2009: Good question! There is no answer to it you could date once and find her or 100 times and never find her. There is someone for everyone stop looking and she will find you, or you will find each other. You would be surprised where you might meet a ... (read in full...)

Is she just not that interested, or is there something else going on?

Q.   I recently met this girl over the summer.shes a single mom with a rough past.Im a single man with a baby on the way. shes also living alone and struggling.(had to put that out there)At first she seemed only somewhat interested IN ME ,but as time ...

A.   8 October 2009: She sounds very confused! I suggest trying to move on. If a relationship is that rocky before it begins what will happen in a year from now. If you continue to try to start a relationship with her, you may get hurt. I don't know why she is being so ... (read in full...)

I don't have the proof of an affair..but don't feel right about this

Q.   My situation is a little different than I've read here. I haven't don't have proff of an affair but... My hubby of 10 months had an ex-girlfriend call him out of the blue. She first called his cell but we have poor reception where we live. She cal...

A.   26 September 2009: You have every right to be suspicious. Little lies only lead to bigger lies. I hope he is not cheating, and he may not be you may be over reacting. One thing that I have noticed though, is that a woman's intuition is rarely wrong. Dig a litte deeper ... (read in full...)

Any tips on writing a love letter?

Q.   I would like to write a love letter to my gf. We have been together for 6 months and to it cool. I want to take our relationship to the next level. Any tips for writing a love letter? Should I mention the possibility of sex and that I would like ...

A.   26 September 2009: My dearest (name here), When I am with you everything else disappears. Now that I have you in my life could never imagine my life without you. You are my everything, without you I am incomplete. When I close my eyes at night and dream I only dre... (read in full...)

I lost my libido years ago!

Q.   I have been married since 1997, have two girls age 10 and 8 and I have lost my libido for what seems like years. My husband has given up trying to have sex after being brushed off so many times. Anyone with advice or has the same problem? Please ...

A.   26 September 2009: I agree with sweet thing, but might I add if it is not emotional it may be physical. Are you on any medications some have side effects that cause loss of libido. Talk to your ob/gyn about it he can help if it is a physical problem. Also, weight gain ... (read in full...)

Is it common for a woman to go through a period of promiscuity/sexual experimentation?

Q.   Is it common for a woman to go through a period of promiscuity/sexual experimentation in her young adult life. My girlfriend of six months told me she had been with 5 guys in six months her senior year of college. The last one she dated for 6 ye...

A.   25 September 2009: Yes. There are many young adult women who do this especially after a long term relationship. They feel sometimes that they need to experience certain things before they settle down. If they settle to soon they may never get that chance. ... (read in full...)

A glimpse inside a 'messed up' teenagers head

Q.   I know I'm messed up.... I'm in high school, which are supposed to be the best years of your life right? But I'm just feeling lost and neglected by other people, but also by myself. I don't take care of myself the way I should. And I know this. Bu...

A.   24 September 2009: For the record the only people who think teenage life was the best years of their life are the ones who were the dumb jocks who are in their late 30s, balding, 85 lbs heavier, working at a gas station, or living at home with mama. High School is ... (read in full...)

My partner doesn't want our baby.

Q.   Hi, I am 30yrs old and I just found out that I am pregnant 3 days ago. Me and my partner have been together for 2 years he already has 3 children and his reaction when I told him I was pregnant was like I ruined his life. We did use birth control ...

A.   24 September 2009: My friend told his girlfriend of 13 years the same thing, now their newest son is 7 and they are still together and he loves his son more than anything. Hopefully he will come around and accept the baby. Please do not abort/kill an innocent child, ... (read in full...)

This guy has me confused! He doesn't want a relationship but wants to hang out all the time...

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for 4 months and I need help to figure out if it is going anywhere. We don’t live in the same town but are close enough that it’s easy to see each other. When we first met he was the one who would text me all the time ...

A.   24 September 2009: Oh I'm so sorry for you. I feel your pain I'm in a similar situation except I have been sleeping with him and it has been 15 months. To me it seems like he cares about you. If you can just keep your distance he will either come around or he won't ... (read in full...)

Is urinating inside each other okay?

Q.   Okay, my boyfriend and i are both into a fetish called watersports. It's got alot to do with urination. Well my boyfriend likes it when i pee in him, and vice versa, but i was wondering if it was okay? Like, is it safe for us to be urinating inside ...

A.   24 September 2009: Yes urine is sterile, however if you have a uti, kidney, or bladder infection, it is not exactly safe. Or if there is any bacteria on or around either parties' genitals you may risk spreading the bacteria. Of course, that holds true for sex of any ... (read in full...)

Good suggestions for my best friends b-day, should I center it around his kids?

Q.   My best friends birthday is coming up this saturday. I was thinking about making a collage of pictures of him and his kids. There is one picture I have of all of them in front of a fountain I was thinking about making that the focal point. Anyway is ...

A.   22 September 2009: He loved it he said it was the best gift he had ever received. ... (read in full...)

Do men like to chase? Or do they actually like slightly aggressive women?

Q.   I've been wondering this as I've read some books as well as some articles online about women basically using manipulation or playing games to keep a man interested. Simply put: men like to chase. However, I'm starting to believe it's BS, and was ...

A.   17 September 2009: As a general rule the first day you meet give him your number when he asks don't offer it to him and don't ask for his. If he asks he wants to talk to you if not you had a conversation with an interesting person. Don't be too aloof, but don't cling ... (read in full...)

Lost in an apparent man's world

Q.   So right now I am so upset and sick to my stomach. I feel hopeless.I think I should just be alone for the rest of my life. I know people think i must be crazy , but my boyfriend and I of 4 years were already fighting and I asked him why he deleted ...

A.   17 September 2009: I don't understand why some women get upset over a guy watching porn. If he is addicted that is one thing. Although, if you have certain convictions you need to stick to them, if you feel that he is not for you leave. Never stay in a relationship ... (read in full...)

Cysts on the ovary what does it mean?

Q.   Ok... i went to the Dr's they made me get a blood test and an ultrasound... the ultrasound shows that i have a cyst on my ovarys... small ones.. uhh and i dont know what im ment to do? can anyone help me with this? i have alot of sickness's...

A.   17 September 2009: Chill out, I get cysts on my ovaries it is usually just a hormonal imbalance. I freaked out the first time they told me that he prescribed a birth control and told me to take it as perscribed and I shouldn't have a problem, and when I take them ... (read in full...)

Good suggestions for my best friends b-day, should I center it around his kids?

Q.   My best friends birthday is coming up this saturday. I was thinking about making a collage of pictures of him and his kids. There is one picture I have of all of them in front of a fountain I was thinking about making that the focal point. Anyway is ...

A.   17 September 2009: Btw I did not use that heading. My question is not about centering his birthday around his children. I wanted to use it is my best friend's birthday, what to do. They always change my headline, so people are always misinformed about my question. The ... (read in full...)

My husband is converting to Islam and wants ME to convert too!

Q.   I was shocked by what I found around the house when I woke up this morning. There were a lot of prayer books and a copy of the Koran (is that how you spell it??) lying around, plus some other Islamic literature. I asked my husband why there was Is...

A.   30 April 2009: I don't have much to say except stay true to yourself. Don't change any part of yourself because of the person your with. The best part of being with someone is being able to be yourself and not being someone different. ... (read in full...)

Why arrange to meet him when she knows damn well the trouble I went through for her.

Q.   I have a close female friend who doesn't know many people in the area. I used to (and secretly still do) have feelings for her but being the incapable blithering fool that I am I successfully managed to destroy any chance of a relationship. A fe...

A.   14 February 2009: That sounds like a similar situation that I was in a few years ago. I really cared about this guy we hung out all the time I'd buy him drinks at the bar and do all sorts of things for him as he would do the same for me. Well I started falling for ... (read in full...)

How do you ladies feel when your man forgets V-Day?

Q.   How do you ladies feel when your man of 3 years forgets it's Valentines day and you get nothing. Not a card, not a flower, not a single romantic sentiment? Please advise. I don't know what to do. Mention it? Or just let the day pass by like it ...

A.   14 February 2009: He might not realize it is valentines day. Remind him say did you realize what today is. If he knows and did not do anything he could probably care less about it. If he truly forgot he will be apologetic. Some men don't like valentines day and won't ... (read in full...)

My sister's new boyfriend RAPED me 4 years ago... how do I handle this???

Q.   About 4 years ago, I was raped. I was 15 at the time, I am 19 now. I never told anyone but my sister. And I told her to never tell anyone. She gave me her promise. (She is 24 now) it all happend on april 4th 2004. I was coming home from visiting my ...

A.   14 February 2009: Omg sweetie tell your sister tell your mom, hell tell the cops I'm sure the statute of limitations has not run on a rape case. You are already in so deep please tell someone. In my family we learned at a young age to never keep secrets like that. I ... (read in full...)

He's just confessed to me he's 29... I'm 18, what should I do?

Q.   I'm 18 years old and I fell inlove with an 29 year old man... what's really crazy is that he was an undercover cop. I met him at the hospital in the waiting room, he told me he was 17 years old in high school. I believed him because he does look ...

A.   14 February 2009: Sounds nuts find out if he is or was really a cop. He may be lying about everything you might want to find some things out before you get too involved. ... (read in full...)

He's out of my league, and we will never be. But I love him so much.

Q.   I love this guy I met, when I say love, I will drop out of college and start a family, or even have his baby if he wants me to. I just love him, I may even be infactuated with him. I think about him and cry sometimes, he is 28 and has his life ...

A.   14 February 2009: You are not out of his league he is just older and has had time to get his life together. It takes time to get established in life. He knows that you are working to get your life all in order. Don't let his independence scare you away from what ... (read in full...)

Are we going to be "friends with benefits" forever, or does he want more?

Q.   I met this man about 8 months ago. At first we went to lunch together everyday and we spent the night together every weekend and sometimes through the week things were awesome. Soon we quit having lunch together but that was because he no longer ...

A.   13 February 2009: I found out yesterday while talking with some of my coworkers who use to work with his ex that she indeed cheated on him for a long time. I did not even ask the questions they were just talking about previous employees. I found it very ... (read in full...)

I made my mom hate me and don't know what to do

Q.   I've made my mum hate me and I don't know what to do. It started just over a year ago when I started seeing a guy who is 11 years older than me. I was 18 at the time. I was scared to tell my parents as I had seen their reaction when my sister m...

A.   13 February 2009: I understand that you don't want your mom to be upset but you are an adult and you don't have to explain anything to your mom its none of her business. If you like this guy go for it 11 years is not a big deal. It's your life she can not tell you ... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and do not want children. Do I abort it or put it up for adoption?

Q.   My birthday was two days ago, and for my present I found out that I am pregnant. For many people this would be fabulous news! And I really do want children, however due to finances, we really cannot afford to have a baby just yet. We were using ...

A.   12 February 2009: Give the baby to a happy home please. You said that fate is the reason you are pregnant so why would you kill a baby it did nothing to anyone. Maybe your pregnancy is someone elses fate that baby will be blessed with a wonderful family. Start ... (read in full...)

Delayed period, what could it be?

Q.   i am a 19 year old lesbian ....i have been with my girlfriend for a very long time i usually get my period two days after her is been about a month passed is till havent gotten it i dont sleep with boys so what could it be im very scared...

A.   11 February 2009: Stress, systs on your ovaries, weight changes, hormones, diet changes, anything could cause it. Just relax if you don't start soon like within the week go to the doctor. I missed a period for 4 months I went to the dr and they wrote a prescription ... (read in full...)

They say I am a one burner

Q.   Hi have weird question. I have a beautiful girlfriend whom love me and always be there for me.Sometimes i feel like break up because my friend say we are talking too long 4 years. They say i am one burner. What your view on this...

A.   11 February 2009: Your friends are jackasses do what you feel is right and know is right she loves you. Unless there are real problems in your relationship or there is no love stay where you are at. There is nothing wrong with long term relationships. Follow your ... (read in full...)

Would you be the g/f of a guy who "isnt your type?"

Q.   Would you be the girlfriend of a guy who is not necessarily your type looks wise.. if he treats you nice (except for one screw up) waits to do things when you are ready isn't cheap is sweet BUT worries about whether you will cheat a lot..hi...

A.   11 February 2009: Is he ugly do you want to put a bag over his head? Just because he does not look like the ideal man you have pictured in you head does not mean he is not the one for you. If you are not attracted to him you probably don't need to date him. Don't ... (read in full...)

2 best friends are fighting!

Q.   ok,so my 2 bff's are in a fight and 1 of them doesnt want 2 be her friend anymore no matter what i say or do,but my other bff wants 2 make peace.and it feels like 1 of them wants me to choose but she says thats not what shes doing.and i have a ...

A.   11 February 2009: People fight they may get over it. You should not choose between them make enough time in your life for each of them. Let both of them know that you are friends with both of them and you will not choose between the two of them. ... (read in full...)

Does he like me? Or her?

Q.   ok so first of all i must put out there that i am only fourteen so dont think i am like in college or something but i like this guy in my grade he is fifteen years old his name is not important. but we flirt a lot...or at least i think we do....

A.   11 February 2009: If you are that nervous about telling him how you feel have a third party talk to him. Have them tell him that they think you like him and that he should ask you out on a date. I'm in my twenties and still have people do that for me. Just make sure ... (read in full...)

What should I do if I want to see him again, without making it awkward?

Q.   This weekend I ran into a guy at the bars whom I have always had a crush on, but he has had a girlfriend the entire time I've known him. He has been with his girlfriend for 2 1/2 years. Well, I ended up going home him with him after the bars and ...

A.   11 February 2009: Text him or call him tell him you wanna hang out see what develops. Don't be overly agressive let him make the first moves. If you don't show that you feel awkward it won't be. ... (read in full...)

Is looking at live nude webcam girls porn or cheating?

Q.   I have asked this question before but feel the need to ask one more time. Has any girl out there had her boyfriend look at live nude girls on a video cam? Or are there any guys who watch it? Is it normal and I'm being old-fashioned or is it ...

A.   11 February 2009: Let him know you don't like it I would not necessarily consider it cheating. It really depends on the whole situation. If he is talking to these girls about hooking up then yes I would say it is cheating. But I'm also a little liberal though I ... (read in full...)

Am I holding on to a hopeless crush?

Q.   3 years ago I truely fell in love for a senior that was my drill instructor and best friend. He went to boot camp and became a Marine and basically sucludes himself, but this interesting friendly relationship was abusive with his demeaning, hurtful ...

A.   11 February 2009: You should probably move on stay alone for awhile find out who you are first. Don't worry about the guy in the marines he will be a different person when he gets out and probably won't be the one you want anymore. If you are truly worried about ... (read in full...)

WHY did my b/f cheat on me??

Q.   hey recently my boyfriend cheated on me and im having a really hard time dealing with it... what keeps playing on my mind is WHY?? i just want to know so i can try to logically understand the concept however when i asked him he said it was just a ...

A.   11 February 2009: I would have to agree with plexi men cheat because they get bored as all my male friends say getting some "strange" They can't keep there member in their pants. Men are idiots they never realize what they have. they can have the most beautiful and ... (read in full...)

My crush of 3 years likes my twin, should I tell her I like him?

Q.   Hey, ive never been on here before a bit of a new bee :) Well i have a big dilema, ive just found out my crush of 3 years is in love with my twin sister. My twin has come to me for advice as i know the boy more, but she doesn't know about my fe...

A.   10 February 2009: OMG this has happened to me before. I am a twin the man my sister is married to now I use to have a huge crush on. She knew that I liked him but she did not care she still dated him. Whether you tell her or not and they end up dating, you will ... (read in full...)

Any tips about asking her out after I refused her invitation?

Q.   the girl i fancy asked me to a party on saturday. i said no because i thought she was jokin and did'nt want to gatecrash someone else's party but i'm regretting it we are both 17 and only see each other at work once a week and have began gett...

A.   10 February 2009: Tell her that you have an extra ticket and ask her to come along. See how the night goes. Go out and have fun you never know what might happen.... (read in full...)

Ladies, how can a guy make Valentine's Day special for you?

Q.   Ladies, how can a guy make Valentine's Day special for you? What are some fun ideas? Do you like to have a romantic evening leading up to sex for Valentine's Day? Do you enjoy sex on Valentine's Day? How can your guy make Valentine's Day sex for ...

A.   9 February 2009: I will have to agree with aunty rach. I would just love something simple. Invite her to your house light a few candles, set her down to a nice meal, home cooked if you know how, or take out if you don't. You may want to get her something nice ... (read in full...)

Are we going to be "friends with benefits" forever, or does he want more?

Q.   I met this man about 8 months ago. At first we went to lunch together everyday and we spent the night together every weekend and sometimes through the week things were awesome. Soon we quit having lunch together but that was because he no longer ...

A.   9 February 2009: BTW I do know that those women cheated on him because one of the women has a child by another man so it is obvious, the other one I was told by his kids that their mom cheated. The reason we went to lunch and not dinner and I did not stay with him ... (read in full...)

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