A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi. Imagine this work-place scenario. An unmarried man seduces a married woman into chasing him (they have been working in the same large office for nearly 4 years). He then responds to this indicator of interest by asking her out via e-mail. She rejects his approach and then proceeds to avoid all eye contact from there on, completely blanking him, effectively. What would be the reason for this? Does she hate him for seducing her? Is she in denial i.e. does she like him and the only way she can deal with the situation is the 'out of sight, out of mind' approach in order to save her marriage? What if she is still peeping at him from a great distance away, but when in closer proximity making sure that she totally blanks him as mentioned. Imagine the guy in question is charismatic, good looking, cares for her very much and she knows this. Imagine he has accepted that he will not end up with her and she knows this. Why then would she persist with the 'blanking'. Is this honestly the only way she can deal with the situation? Is she intimidated by him, is he too hot to handle? Suffice to say: she is gorgeous. She is in her early thirties, incidentally, so should be experienced with this kind of issue. I'd be interested in your opinions. Many thanks all round!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Does this scenario have anything to do with this other scenario?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/when-a-woman-blanks-a-guy--.html
I think that in this case the man may have totally misread the indication of interest which prompted the initial email asking for a date. Either that, or she came to her senses and wants nothing to do with the man who was trying to get in between her and her husband.
At this point in time, however, the issue is moot, isn't it? And if it makes the man feel better to imagine that he is too hot to handle, then that is between his ego and himself. Whatever her motivation for blanking him, the effect and intention are the same: she wishes no further contact. It may simply be a case that he began to creep her out, and she didn't want to deal with it anymore.
The only one it really matters to now seems to be the man, who I hope has learned to take rejection gracefully.
Good luck in finding an available woman to date.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 August 2008):
 It doesn't matter what is behind her behavior, knock off this nonsense and leave her alone. Find someone who is single to "chase" after you.
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