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writes:How important is sex in life? Apart from the whole producing life bit. Is sex necessary for a happy life. Sex causes a lot of problems in peoples lives from unwanted children to emotional and physical complications. If sex was not a factor in life would you be more productive overall? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): Agree with the previous poster about scientists and thinkers - many great men and women in history have remained on their own, their entire life. Nikola Telsa comes to mind, and we owe that man a GREAT deal for everything he thought of. So is sex necessary for a happy and/or successful life? Not really. Perhaps a happy relationship, but if you're content on your own, it's not needed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): Hmm..so what if your partner or spouse got into an accident and was paralyzed or permanently injured and unable to have sex, would you divorce them because as you all say, sex is necessary for a relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): I can live without it, but humans in general can't because it is a physical need, that can be pretty strong. Yes, I think the world would be a very different and better place if people had no sex drive. But it is hard to imagine such a world considering that almost everything revolves around sex, even though sometimes it isn't that obvious.
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reader, Odds +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Well, some of the best scientists and thinkers in history were life-long bachelors. Isaac Newton probably died a virgin, for example. Whether the others were without sex or just without marriage is probably lost to history in most cases, so who knows.
Personally, I'm happier, more productive, and full of more energy when I'm getting sex on the regular. I've had months-long dry spells, since I don't have sex outside of relationships, but I'd really rather not go through those more than I have to. Frequent sex makes life better all around.
To each his own, though. If someone doesn't want it as much, there's nothing wrong with them.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Sex is 100% to a happy relationship - whether it is 100% necessary to a happy 'life' is debateable. I'm sure you can argue that sex is a distraction and you should use your energy for more positive things, however if you used that same argument the opposite sex would be a distraction too - therefore if you were to stay away from sex in order to be more productive then you would have to stay away from dating/relationships entirely as well.
So going back to whether it is necessary to a happy relationship - then absolutely. Sex is part and parcel of intimacy, without sex and intimacy you dont have anything more than a glorified friendship.
I even think I personally would be less productive without sex, I would be horny and thinking about sex all the time. Sex is a good stress release too, so I would be more stressed and distracted - not good!
Yes there are negatives to having sex - like unwanted children, STD's, arguments within relationships etc. But these are easily avoided through contraception & safe sex. Plus the emotional side of things - well that is down to the individual. Yes there can be emotional problems, but sex can also have emotional benefits, it can bring a couple closer together, it releases endorphins making you feel happy, it can help you get past arguments (make-up sex) etc.
There are pro's and con's of course. But in terms of whether sex is neccessary for a happy relationship then yes. Is it neccessary to a happy life? For some people yes, for some people no. Buddhist monks, priests...these are all people that dedicate their lives to other causes and abstain from sex and they are very happy (well at least they appear that way). Would it work for everyone? No. Each to their own really!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Sex - AND intimacy - CAN BE an important part of life.... Not necessarily for everybody, but for some. The "key" is for two people who wish to make a life together.... that their desires for sex and sensuality (intimacy) are similar....
Take if from me... who endured 6 years with a woman who was unable to love - never mind share sex - it's excrutiating.... and, ultimately, you can't live that way, so you have to part and hope that you will meet a partner with whom you DO HAVE sensual/sexual compatibility....
Good luck....
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