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Is paying strippers for a lap dance cheating?

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Question - (18 May 2009) 10 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2009)
A male United States age 36-40, *EScott1985 writes:

My wife and I are going on a trip to Vegas soon and I'm wondering if it's okay to pay strippers for a personal lap dance...or is that cheating?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009):

Why not take your wife to an all female strip club and get HER lap dances. Give her the money so she can choose women, then she will not get jealous. No jealousy + 2 women grinding = fun for everyone, PLUS you look like a stud at the club because you have a girl who is up for going to a strip club. Then head back to the hotel and get crazy. Thank me later.

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A female reader, Tweetybird828 United States +, writes (20 May 2009):

well it depends.... talk to your wife and see if it is okay with her.... she might be okay with it cuz she wants you to have fun...but if you are not sure talk to her... she will let you know

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009):

The fact that you're coming here to ask the questionat all- not even going to your wife is answer enough.

Not only are you considering this (on this website) behind her back, but you are concerned only with the technicalities of whether it is 'cheating'; not whether it would upset your wife (personally, not going on some rule of thumb).

How awful. I feel so sorry for your wife. Why did you marry her if you don't adore her?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009):

You haven't made it clear whether your wife would be involved with this or not...

The question you should be asking is How would she feel about it. Would she think it's cheating...would it upset her? If the answers to those questions are Yes. Then I wouldn't plan on it! Your going there with your wife! Enjoy everything together! Let her give you lapdance!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009):

to honeypie

please dont link lap dancers like me to hookers because we are not the same we dont sleep with men for money thankyou very much.

its very offensive to me for someone to say that as it isnt entirely true and what we do is perfectly legal please think before you compare perfectly reasonable citezens to hoes and sluts like prostitutes

i do not like these comments

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 May 2009):

Honeypie agony auntIf you can do it in front of your wife with her consent and acceptance then no it might not be cheating.

But if you plan on going out on your own to have a lapdance then yes, I would consider it cheating. What's next? a hooker? a one nights stand? Jsut because you pay for a "service" doesn't make it any less of a "sin" or a dent in the marriage.

And like Veyron wrote - would you mind of the tables were turned? And she got a lap dance from some fit and well hung dude ?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009):

no of course it not cheating!

i should know its my job to strip/pole/lap dance for men in clubs and personal events.

true your wife might not be happy about it but then i suggest you dont go to the strip clubs in the first place becos thats what will happen and she'll have to accept that once your there.

but yeh its not cheating because you arnt actually doing anything wrong and dont forget there are male strippers out ther that will do the same thing and how would you feel about that would she mind having someone dance on her ?

hope you have fun out there whatever you decide

message me if you have any questions

Jodie :) xxx

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A female reader, sexseahot United States +, writes (18 May 2009):

sexseahot agony auntKinda depends on your guys' relationship. Some women really don't want their men getting a personal dance from a stripper. I know I personally wouldn't. You may want to ask her first before assuming she wouldn't mind.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009):

your las vegas trip may just be the start of the end of your marriage, so be doubly sure you know what you are doing.

will your wife be present during this lap dance? will she also get a sneak preview to some stimulating entertainment while on holiday.

you need to get the go ahead from her first before forking out money for the lap dance and would you expect the dancer to add a little extra and "finish" it off for you.

this holiday may be exciting for you but plse do not let your enthusiasm get the better of you.

if you seek sexual entertainment then make certain your wife gets a piece of the action. maybe she too wants to add some variety to your boring sex life. then you both can freely indulge with one getting upset.

enjoy the time in vegas

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009):

if your wife went to a strip club, would mind? If not, then go for it. If you do, it would be better not to do something that you wouldn't approve of her doing.

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