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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and half. We are the best of friends and believe that what we have is true love..I have never known a feeling like this. But this fall we both went off to college and now live 3 hours apart. We fight about the smallest things, usually its me getting upset about something stupid. Before the distance barrier he always used to do everything in his power to make me happy again. If i went to sleep angry he would send an adorable message for me to wake up to. Or call me and stay on the phone with me until i was finally happy again. Lately he has stopped doing this. He assures me that his feelings for me have not changed and he has just been trying a different approach at handling my sadness. He said he'd go back to normal and to what he used to do. This has not been the case. I am so scared that we are falling apart. The distance is killing me. I am not sure if our problems can be blamed on the distance pulling us apart or if it is just one of those things that change in a relationship over time. I am not ready to let go of him...just simply looking for some answers. Some ways to mend our stressed relationship. How do we make it better? How do i know that if this is just normal and nothing to worry about?Help us please, help us to love again. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 It sounds to me like your boyfriend is fed up with trying to make you happy and he is slowely giving up, what exactly is it that is making you sad? These issues need to be sorted not the fact that your boyfriend is not making an effort to make you happy again, you need to work on why you are sad and what can change to stop you from being sad, its not your boyfriends job to cheer you up all the time.
You say you get upset over something stupid and this is why you both argue, have you low self asteem? You need to work on being happy on your own not relyin on other people, work towards being happy daily and have the bonus of having your friends and boyfriends there as well but dont rely on them to cheer you up.
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