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writes:i have a boyfriend. Our relation makes 1 year. we've gone so far during this one year (no sex)..only foreplay. i trust him a lot and i know he will never betray me.we are very open in sex topic. he is now abroad. a few days he was always asking me that he would like to kiss me down there. i was really uncomfortable thinking about it and i did refuse him saying i don't like it. however, before going he requested me again so i let him.afterwards through text, i jokingly said ''am kissing you down there, can u feel it?'' i really want to kiss him there but after wedding. after raising the topic quite a few times, he told me he does not like the idea of kissing down there. i asked him why?he said very often the boy cum in the girl's mouth. and he found that disgusting. he also added that oral sex is more porn rather than making love to one's wife.i want to know why he feels so when most of the guys like it when being kissed down there? i also want to how persuade him to kiss him down at least once. he will be the first guy i'll be performing oral on.
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reader, roadie42  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Not all guys are the same - though most guys would certainly jump at the offer, there are some who might not feel comfortable with oral sex or who think it inappropriate. It's a matter of personal preference, and if he's made it clear that he isn't keen on oral, I wouldn't push the issue. You should respect his wishes in that regard.His reasons for not wanting you to perform oral on him were interesting, though...it almost seemed as if he was refusing for YOUR benefit, not his. This could definitely be a possibility, especially if he was so eager to perform oral on you in the first place - perhaps it's his way of showing how he respects you, by not making you feel forced to do the same to him. If that's the case, I would just go with the flow and let it happen spontaneously. That's how it was with my boyfriend, and since it happened so naturally, it wasn't awkward at all. If your boyfriend has less time to think about it, and if he sees that you're perfectly willing to do it, I think it will work out much better. Although if he still refuses, respect his feelings and do something instead that you both feel comfortable with.
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