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anonymous
writes: My old sex buddy and i saw each other today , it's been a while since we've seen each other , but he messaged me on Facebook than we texted and he said if i would ever be his girl , and i replied if he would be faithful than yeah . Than he said he'd call when he was out of work and well i don't know what to do . When we stopped talking i missed him so much , we have so much chemistry i know no other girl will offer him what I once did , we would hook up but i would understand him we'd talk about everything , and well we weren't just sex buddy's because he'd take me out on dates lay next to me we'd cook for each other or help each other with homework we'd party together everything , he was just a sex buddy because i guess at the time neither of us were ready for a relationship. But this time apart not talking he crosses my mind and i know he still thinks of me . What should i do ? Talk to him ? Or just let it go ? Would it be hard to date someone who you were once not committed to ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 March 2013):
 I would be very cautious OP. Men have been taught that they need to promise a relationship to a girl to get laid.
Just because you spent time together and were affectionate and companions outside of bed does not mean he loves you or will want more than a casual relationship.
the only way to make sure that's what it's about is NOT have sexual contact and let him woo and win you like it's the first time.
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reader, Starlasart +, writes (21 March 2013):
 I would have to say that you are past "Letting it go" because you have already made contact with him and have texted him. If he is going to call you then I suggest having a real heart to heart conversation with him. Ask him how he feels about being a one woman man. If he agrees that he wants to be with you only and you are willing to be with him only there is no problem with seeing if a relationship can form. A relationship is built on a lot of trust, everything else comes easy after that. If you both don't feel 100% committed to having a relationship built on trust and understanding talk about continuing your sex buddies relationship and wait for a different chance with someone else to pop up! Hope that helps some!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2013): What is his real motive for wanting to reconnect? If the two of you can talk about your future together without getting into any sex and really learn about what you both want and if you are ready for a committed relationship. Talk first open and honest.
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