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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:On saturday, my boyfriend and i had plans to go to the movies. We were walking around the mall, then went to look at movie times. There were 2 showings, 7:15 and 9. It was already 7, so i suggested 9 so that we could eat first. He said we could just get food and bring it up to the theater. I still said 9 would give us more time. Then he said "ok fine just make us waste 2 hours." He put me on a guilt trip, so i said fine whatever 7:15 is fine. He bought the tickets and while walking to our theater, we kept arguing about how he was being controlling and rude, and about how i was being stupid and not thinking logically. We argued to the point where I yelled at him, he threatened to go home, and i started crying because of how he was acting toward me. my first assumption was that he had someone else.He said "lets just go in the movie and talk about it after." I insisted we talk right then, before the movie. But as i was walking behind him, anger built up and i slapped him on the back because i was so angry. He finally said he was going home and going to bed. He took me home, and i begged him not to. I felt like this was the end. We have never acted like this. So, when he got to my house, i wouldnt get out of the car so he threatened to break up with me and said he couldnt handle talking right now because he had a headache and was angry. After saying "we're done", i got out and got in my car and went to his house to make sure he was there.He left me a few voicemails saying he wqas sorry for that night and how he loves me a lot and no one else.Well, yesterday (sunday) things are a little better. He went to hang out with his friends, which made me feel like he didnt wanna be with me because he ditched me the night before. (we also wasted $20 on the movie)his phone isnt working right so he usually has to call me from his house phone. he said he would call after he took his friends home at 9:30. It was 11 and he still didnt call. I went to his house, saw that his friends car wasnt there, and got worried. I had no idea what happened and i had waited aorund for him to call. AND, since his phone wasnt working, i couldnt call and see where he was. I texted one of his friends he was with and he said they were at someone elses house. I know this person, so i went over there also and found out that myboyfriend had tried to text me saying that they were dropping everyone off then he would call, but that his other friend suggested they stop at this place first. So, he didnt really know they were going somewhere else. but at the same time im mad that he didnt call me before he went anywhere.I feel like I am trying to get something from him that I'm not getting. Attention maybe? I dont know.But after hanging out with all of them, i was so frustrated so i told him not to call anymore (even though i didnt mean it) i felt like it was the only thing to do. we talked it through and are fine now, but still, i want to know what people think of this and i want to know how to get what i want from my boyfriend without being mean. I feel like I threaten him just so i get more attention from him, when thats actually a good way to push him away.
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reader, Nycee25 +, writes (29 December 2008):
You may have more feelings for him than he does for you. My advice is to balance your relationship with him; don't make him the center of your world because he notices it I'm sure. He probably likes you, but you are too clingy. Try making friends with other people, getting a hobby or even having other male friends (not sexually). You never know, he might have female friends, so don't limit yourself. You are still young!
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