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writes:I am 21 year old gal who has never been in a stable relationship up until i met this guy.We met in a public bus..exchanged numbers,joked over the phone...met severally.We enjoyed each others company,and what i loved most about him was his concern for me coz he really did not like my joblessness.So he took my CV and kept on the lookout in case one came up..Anyway to cut the long story short we became close,very close that he told me of this one important issue-that he was a married guy(7 years in marriage)two kids BUT the marriage was not working coz the wife was seeing someone else.So he wanted to know if i could still accept him for who he is coz he he wants to file a divorce and move on.But whats really nagging me is-Is he doing this just to forget his pains?Is he doing this as a revenge?Does he really mean it when he says that he loves me?how can i know that he is genuine?Is he doing this just to forget her and when things are OK he will pack and leave?Honestly, i cant say that am soooo deep in love..am confused coz i feel he has not yet made up his mind-if its me or his wife(who up to now are still communicating via mails)Help me..pls pls pls
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reader, meens +, writes (7 February 2009):
meens is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo add more on the confusion,he has not been calling until i call him myself.And when he picks up,he tells me of how busy he has been but that he still and will always remember me.Recently,he told me that he is a little bit confused about everything...and this is when i told him that i am very ready to give him all the time he wants so that he sorts out his state with his wife-either to amend it or to completely do away with it-so that if he moves on it will be without regrets.I do not mind about his age(as he is over ten years older than me),his two kids(am ready to help him care for them) or any other thing,all i want to know is if he has really set his mind on me..NB:Thank you so much for your answers which hoping with time i will be able to find my way...thanks a million times!!
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reader, meens +, writes (7 February 2009):
meens is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo we just meet over dates..we do not live together.He told me that he has lived alone for four months after separating with his wife..something that makes me more confused coz it is such a short time for him to say that he has moved on and wants to have me!But the way he treats me washes away my questions and doubts..what am i supposed to do?Go ahead and enter into a relationship with someone who had a wife for SEVEN years?Am i a mistress?I get confused everyday...help!!
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (6 February 2009):
 Please clarify one thing. From your post it SOUNDS like he lives with you and communicates only by email with his wife? Is that correct? You really did not make that clear.
Generally speaking men will tell a 'honey' that their marriage isnt working and they love the 'honey' and PLAN to file for divorce, but it never seems to actually happen.
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