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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. I've got a slight issue that has been bugging me for a few weeks now. I have a large group of friends at college and in that group 4 people have said that they have a crush on me (3 guys and 1 girl). This didn't bother me although I still don't understand what it is that they seem to like about me. Any way, a few weeks ago I got into a relationship with one of the guys that like me. My female friend who likes me began to act differently and I'm worried that she might be jealous. If I'm having a conversation with her and my boyfriend turns up, she begins to ignore me and talk to other friends instead. Whenever my boyfriend and I play fight she pretends to tell us off but when we continue she gets really mad. Also one of my other friends was talking to me about it today and she says that my female friend who likes me has been talking about my boyfriend and I a lot and has been getting annoyed about the relationship. When my boyfriend and I stopped seeing each other for a few days because of her reaction, she went back to her old self and kept hugging into me and even asked me to go to the cinema (just the 2 of us). At the cinema she kept cuddling into me and she kept putting her arm around me during those few days. I'm not sure if she really is jealous or if I'm picking it up wrong. What do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): First off, I can't believe you let her abusive, jealous behaviour actually pull you and your BF apart. Then you reward her selfish, infantile behaviour with your time and affection?
So you just taught your GF that she can pull all that drama crap and you will put your friendship or relationship with her FIRST over any other relationship you form?
You are messing with some serious garbage that might explode into a nasty fistacuffs verbally or even physically not to mention inviting in drama. ICK.
So why would you tolerate such ugly behaviour? I get you may be 18 years old but even so- how and who you date and have as friends now, models who you will have as friends years later.
And if you can let some twit come between your love relationships- what will happen to your marriage??
I'd say turf her unhealthy selfish behaviour but I don't think you will because you are in love with all the attention and drama.
So chose what matters most to you now? Friendship at any cost? Or healthy, adult relatinoships with healthy adults with CLEAR, CONSISTANT boundaries and expectations?
Peace Out!
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