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writes:Ok, I will try to make this as short as possible. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year now and he is my first love. He has been engaged before me, and says that he didn't have sex with his ex; and I believed him. Until I found a photograph of him lying on his back handcuffed naked to a bed, a Winnie the Pooh teddy covering his private parts. When I found this photo in an old album of him and his ex; I was really hurt. He claimed that he took the photo using an auto timer for "a laugh", but I highly doubt this (because he hates his body.) He looked me in the eye and tried to convince me that he took this photo as a joke. Why would he take this photo if he hates his body? Could he be quick enough to "pose" for this shot? Do you think his ex took it?I'm not bothered by that fact that he may have slept with someone before me; it's the fact that he may have lied to me and said he lost his virginity to me. Why would he lie about how many sexual partners he's had?
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reader, Ryuk22 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 But, to answer a question which keeps popping up. Handcuffs you can get from, say any sex shop like ann Summers, usually have a little button on the side, to open them. So he could tie himself up yea.. He doesnt even need keys. :/
So, umm its a difficult one. But i'd say hes lying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): I'd be concerned about the lying too. Tell him you don't believe him and ask him why he lied. Trust is very important in a relationship. Tell him this, and talk more about it.
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reader, in.need.of.help  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 yes he is lying how would he set the timer to sake the picture if the had cuffs were on and how did he put the bear there if the hand cuffs were on? and yeah its a lie and if ift was in with the album of him and his ex im sure she was there!
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reader, q1605 +, writes (21 May 2008):
 The title question is.....Is my boyfriend lying? I'll answer your question with one of my own...Are his lips moving?
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (21 May 2008):
 Seriously, how did this guy get the handcuffs on and off if he was alone? He'd have to be Houdini to be that quick!
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reader, Ryuk22 +, writes (21 May 2008):
Being honest - I say he has had sex with his old fiancee..
And i would be concerned as to why, he lied to you. And how many times he will lie to you more (or has lied to you).
And being honest, if a guy says to a girl whos a virgin hes also never had sex before, its so that the girl feels very comforted and comfortable around him, and is willing to lose her virginity to him, because she won't make a fool of herself or whatever, because he also is a virgin.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (21 May 2008):
You really think this guy was engaged and not having sex? You guys aren't even engaged and he's having sex with you! I would accept the fact that he's had sex before you so the picture doesn't even really matter but I would be concerned about the lying. I'm also concerned that you are very gullible and I think you need to be a little more realistic? You won't get hurt by so much. I wouldn't try to press on his past sex life because some of that is private and shouldn't be threatening to you unless he could possibly have an STD, okay? Focus on the present and how he treats you now.
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