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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi I am so confused, this guy I've met is 8 years older than me with 3 ex gf's, with a child to each.He is a very emotional person, doesn't like the single life, he gets lonely often and becomes very down.We have met a few times and hes told me quiet clear about his feelings an how much he likes me an how he would like to be an itemAs I say he is 8 years older, own home car and business. He has the children friday night till sunday afernoonOf whom I've met once and it went well, and since the children have asked where I am, why I haven't been to visit them again.I don't fancy him but he has an amazing personality and would treat me like a princess if we got together.I am only 25 and I'm thinking/wondering what to do * I know he wants a long term gf * I know he wants to be settled again * I know he likes me a lotWe have done nothing bar kiss and cuddle but I just don't feel the spark, I don't fancy him but I like him as a person.What should I do?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 It's all what "he wants", he wants this, he wants that. What do YOU want? What do you deserve?
And why does he have 3 exgirlfriends with a child to each? He obviously wasn't single when he was with them, so if he hates single life so much, why the breakups?
I personally would hold out for the right guy, the one that makes you feel special, and vice versa. You're only 25, why are you feeling this pressure to commit to him?
And I see 3 worrying signs in him. He gets emotional often, feels lonely often and gets very down. That's a problem that he has to deal with for himself. If he's expecting that being in a relationship is going to fix that, he is very mistaken. No one can make him feel better, HE has to figure it out for himself.
Keep him as a friend if you would like, but I think this doesn't sound promising at all.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): ok.. dont go for it. he may like you but if you dont like him then dont go for it. Honey, only go for the guys YOU like not that like you.
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