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writes: I have the most amazing boyfriend. He's a year older then me . I'm 15 and he's 16. He says he loves me and I love him so much . The only problem is that we don't go to the same school. I met him through a friend and I've never seen him in person . I've seen pictures of him that my friend has shown me and he's sent to me and he's very handsome and is very sweet and funny and really seems to love memy question is it wrong to love someone you have never met in person ?please tell me your thoughts Reply to this Question
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter  +, writes (23 March 2008):
Absolutely agree with the others on that it certainly isnt wrong. I personally would add a word of caution though, people can be different online to in the real world. I am not saying that he is "faking" or that he is actually a 50 year old perv or anything but for example someone can be very shy/ self conscious person in reality because they think they are unattractive but online where looks are removed they are more forward and talkative. Plus second what Daniel said, that whilst physical isn't the be all and end all there does have to be some chemistry there which you will only be able to confirm by spending time together.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 In the normal circumstance , you meet a man and then fall in love.
But in this internet age, you fall in love and later meet the man.
Are there any differences?
I don't think it is wrong.
This is the new world order.
As long as you are happy and what other's think is their business.
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reader, salinew  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 i'm currently going through the reverse of your situation. only differeance is i've met with my gf from time to time. since you are connecting through long distance your first interaction may be very difficult and awkward. this is by no means a reason to destroy your relationship, just keep in mind that once you do meet up you may not be able to be the way you are reguarding him over lets say the phone.
i myself have done that and i have been through this it is very odd at first but once you can find a way to continuosly see each other u become much more comfortable around each other then you can develope your physical attachments towards one another.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 "Wrong" wouldn't be the word I would use for this sort of love. I've known about people who fall in love and have never seen each other. Usually that happens between people who have a long connection, and who share their thoughts and opinions in an honest and clear manner. There is some sort of close contact, and then love ensues. I know for a fact that this happened before internet, so it's not a recent thing.
I suppose you have maintained this sort of contact in one way or another.
I just would want you to see that you always need the physical interaction to determine whether you really can make it with the person. When you're away, flaws of character, tics, lack of hygiene, whatever, that is not evident, and it is very easy to have an idealized image of the other person. Also, you try to hide what's worse about you :-), or what you think the other person wouldn't like.
Also, eventually you need to be in permanent physical contact.
I guess you should arrange for a meeting with this luckiest of guys, and see where that can take you :-).
I wish you the very best.
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