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writes: is it wrong to hook up with a guy that your best friend hooked up with last year? she only hooked up with him 3 times, and not sex just messing around. she should have never done it because he was clear he just wanted sex, which is all i want as well. we both have been attracted to each other since the first night we all hung out, but she got him because i was flirting with another guy at the time. so now i've hooked up with him...and she found out. she says she has no right to be mad because he isnt or was never her man, but she says she just doesnt want me to have him. i dont find this fair because im not a relationship type girl and i wanted to just have fun with him. (im a virgin, so im not doing this all over the place). i just need to know if i should continue or not? he and i both want to, and i havent told her about the last time we hooked up and dont plan on it. she said she'd rather not know. am i a bad person for this?
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (6 July 2006):
 no generally your not a bad person for hooking up with this lad. although i dont like the idea of you thinking about haveing sex with this person. i mean your a virgin and your gonna loose it by a fling wouldnt you preferre to lose it to some one specail in the future? think about when you have kids that are going through sex education and ask mom who did you lose your virginitie with? your gonna reply oh with a lad one night stand he went out with my best mate too. or would you preferre to turn round and say in a stable ralationship and i loved him. by all means heck hook up with him if you think its gonna last if it isnt then find some one else.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (5 July 2006):
 Well my assessment would be 'no' because as she points out she has no claim over him. On the other hand its clear to me from what you say here that she actually wanted more than sex but obviously sex as well so the most likely cause of your friends possessiveness is jealousy.
Whether you continue or not is entirely up to you and should be based on what you want for yourself not what your friend wants.Ultimately you dont have to tell her so that could be one way around it. Hope that helps.
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