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devonique
writes:Alot of people think i'm pretty but i can't see what there talking about, i look in the mirror and see a girl that is over weight (116lbs) to short (5'0) and just very ugly. i have small boobs a ghetto booty (not proud of) and i think the rest of me looks to fat or to muscular. i also hate my ethnicity which is mainly black/white but i cant stand my skin color its so ugly most of the people around me are white and then here i am the little girl that everyone ask "are you adopted" even adults ask me. aftetr all the years being made fun of andbeing asked rude questions i can never feel good pretty enough or good enough. Is this normal to think my body is ugly and deformed?Is it wrong 4 me to hate my skin color?
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 everyone is beautiful in there own way and you sound beautiful just like mother nature we are all pretty in diffrent ways you are who you are so you should be ashamed someone out there loves you for who you are so dont be ashamed about your weight.colour or looks
xx hope this helps i fink you just need a boost of self esteem
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reader, honkifuluvnicole +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Its normal for girls your age to hate the way you look. I certainly have days where I cant stand the way I am or the way I look. I am 17, and I think that you never really grow out of that self image worry.
But you are not overweight at all. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise, even yourself! And second, those questions are VERY rude, and uncalled for, so maybe you should say something to someone. Just say it isnt funny and it hurts you.
You ARE beautiful, NEVER forget that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): The above three answers are all right. Notably, like "Salad Barbarian" said, in other words, we all pick ourselves apart over one thing or another. Either our nose or ears are too big/little, our too straight or whatever (mine's too wavy), or our eyes the wrong color, etc. That's why there are so many people and companies out there selling stuff (often a scam) to change things about people. I think a big part of happiness in life is just accepting who we are and how we look, but it's ok to look the best you can. Accept what is impossible to change and move on. Don't worry, be happy, as Bobby McFarin says.
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reader, Salad_Barbarian + ♥, writes (29 December 2007):
 Sadly it is normal to think your body is wrong at your age. Between the start of puberty until the early 20s this is how most people feel. If they aren't too big they're too small, either too dark or too pale. No matter what hurtful thins people might say to you try to remember that they are only putting you down to try and feel better about their own self image. Also know that real beauty, lasting beauty, the thing that people love and care about you, is inside.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (29 December 2007):
 okay can i just tell you one thing your not overweight for a start...ur BMI is just right... and there is still chance to grow, hormones are still taking place by the looks of ur age on here... however we dont no what u look like the aunt that said about being 7"3 and purple has a point...you would still be beautiful, because there is something about everyone that makes them...them
give ur body some loving babe you will probably feel better for it... try doing something different that will give you excitement....all these things can help in different ways.
be proud to be who you are, we are all different and fab in our own ways!!!!
I think in a way theres a girl in there thats just waiting to shine...so let it babe!!
xxxx
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (29 December 2007):
 ACK!
First of all, I'm sending you a big (((HUG))).
Devonique,
Do not hate anything about yourself. Stop that right there.
You are comparing yourself to others and then deciding that you are not good enough. Pure insanity, honey. Everything about you is just as it should be. You know, there are other girls out there saying that their hineys are too flat or their breasts sag because they're too big. We can all choose to bash ourselves but we can all choose to love ourselves, too. Imagine you judging your dearest friend for his or her appearance. You would never be so unkind. You would think it absurd for someone to do that to your dearest friend. Devonique, it is time to be your dearest friend.
Your description of yourself tells me nothing. If you had said that you were 7'3", 350 pounds, with purple skin, I would say these same words to you. You see? The values are subjective ... you know: beauty is in the eye of the beholder?
We all have something to like about appearance. Take a look at yourself and find something that you truly like, regardless of what others value. Yes, you can do it.
Now, what is important is that you know what you value and that you uphold those values. YOUR values, not someone else's. Also, treat others how you want to be treated. That includes treating yourself how you want to be treated ... that includes treating yourself how you would treat your dearest friend.
You cannot love anyone until you love yourself. You are not going to be very lovable, if you do not love yourself. It's all choices, babe. You have choices. Sometimes you don't like the choices that are offered, but you still have them, and you can make them. Choose to be healthy. Know that you are beautiful just the way you are. If there are things in your character that you would like to change, do it. As for your body, be thankful for it. Take care of it. Love it. No more 'hate talk', missy!
Best wishes and (((BIG HUGS))) to you.
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