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*scarMike21
writes:I know it's a general rule of thumb that pursuing a girl that is not ENTIRELY over her ex is a big no no, but I've ran into a rather precarious situation. I met this girl about 3 weeks ago and we've been talking steadily everyday online via IM for those 3 weeks. She seems genuinely interested in me and I greatly enjoy talking to her and getting to know her. She mentioned that she was in a long term relationship and broke up with the guy almost 9 months ago, but is still unsure if she's fully recovered from the break up. To me 9 months is a good amount of time for recovery, but I knew I should still be wary. I took this information into account, but still decided to ask her out on a date, to which she gladly agreed to. The date was great, we had a good time, but she did mention her ex a couple of times much to my dismay. Nothing critical, not like she compared me to him or anything, but it was obvious to me that she still thinks about him from time to time. The next day after the date, I texted her that I had a good time and that we should get together soon, to which she did not respond. I texted her once more the following day and still no response. Now she hasn't signed online for the past couple of days since the date. I'm not sure if she's not ready, or she's not interested in me. I'm contemplating whether to call her and get some answers, or just to let it be. Is she worth pursuing?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Something could have come up over her place. It would be better if you drop by and see her.
That way , she cannot avoid you and you can find out why the silence on her part.
If you like her, you can go for her . Not every case is the same. Don't generalize or have stereotype thinking.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 February 2010):
Still a big no. I know a guy who went out with a girl who wasn't over her ex after 3 years. I told him not to, he still did. Guess what, the ex came back and she cheated and dumped him. This girl is not over her ex and is not contacting you. Let her go.
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