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writes: I was seeing a guy who was hurt badly by his ex. They were together 5 years and she cheated on him, and now he just doesn't trust anyone for fear of getting hurt.. So we stopped seeing each other as I couldnt hack the fact that he was distant sometimes.. The thing is that we get on soooo well when we meet, have such a laugh and there is so much chemistry! Is it worth just keeping on 'meeting' with him in the hope that it may go right or do I just walk away??
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reader, joannaleigh  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Sweetie, I SO know where you're coming from!!!! You're not going to like my advice at all, but here it goes:
It is highly unlikely that he is suddenly going to look up at you and realize that you are this fantastic girl who is always there for him and won't hurt him and get over his trust issues (and then you two can have a fabulous relationship).
It is much more likely that he is seriously closed off, will not come around no matter how wonderful you are, and that you are wasting your time if you want anything more than a friendship with him.
I say, just walk away, honey, and go find somebody who is as open to loving you as you are them. You deserve it :)
joannaleigh
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reader, kirstylou  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Hey Hun
im in the same situation as you, well not so much of 'lack of trust' but just the fact he doesnt want a relationship yet' and he's being alot distant cause he knows i want more. I keep meeting up with him hoping it will change..i should really forget about him and move on because i feel as though im hanging by a thread and im gettin hurt at the same time coz of my feelings 4 him but im not strong enough to do this.
Hmm but for u it depends how u feel about him really.. if u think he's worth waiting for then keep up what your doing, give him some time, just take things slowly.. He may have a change of heart and want that relationship with you in time. Or you could ask him if there's any chance of anything happening?
hope you sort it out though
take care
love kirsty xxx
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