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writes:Ok im a girl and i was wondering if this is normal. I talked to my friends and they all said it will hurt your first time haveing sex and even made there boyfriends stop. When i had sex for the first time it did hurt but i liked the pain alot and got more turned on by it. I was wondering if its normal to like or get turned on by that and if guys will think im weird or some thing when they find that out. Thanks for your time and help. Reply to this Question
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 I don't know if this would apply to a first time, but I've read some studies of pain during sex (the S&M thing, for example). The explanation was that your nerves are so preoccupied with the pleasure from sex, particularly as you approach orgasm, that any additional stimulus (such as a bite) gets the pleasure/pain sensors confused, and your body interprets it as a different, heightened, sort of pleasure. Obviously not everyone reacts that way, but some people certainly seem to.
You'll have to get more experience to know if a bit of pain works for you, and until you know, and until you're with someone you trust very much, it would be better to keep it to yourself. But if you do find it's something you like, it's not beyond the norm by any means.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (18 December 2009):
 Without using the word normal, yes some people are turned on by pain. Some people are also turned on by very specific situations like losing their virginity.
The advice I would give you at your stated age is to get to know yourself. Be Safe. And don't hurt other people. Be sure to communicate a lot. Read well written books and learn as much as you can.
What I'm trying to say is that just because you liked it this time doesn't mean you are some kid of aberration. It doesn't mean you will like it next time, or need it to become aroused. Only time will tell.
If it turns out that it is something you like and you want more you need to be very careful and have safety rules and only play with people you have proven trust with.
I hope that helps without frightening you too much.
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reader, acey lacey +, writes (18 December 2009):
 sometimes that pain actually DOES feel goodd like its pain but at the same time its bc youre into the sex part of it... dw it just shows youre really into it dont be embaressed by it
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